With divorce rates climbing and homes breaking apart, Sheikh Alaa Elsayed brings decades of experience conducting marriage workshops worldwide to The Deen Show with practical, Quran-based advice for building marriages that last. His message is clear: marriage in Islam is not casual dating with a halal label but a solemn covenant that Allah ranks among His greatest signs in creation.
Why Allah Calls Marriage a Solemn Covenant
In Surah An-Nisa, verse 21, Allah describes marriage as a solemn covenant, placing it among His signs alongside the creation of the heavens and earth, the alternation of night and day, and the diversity of human languages. When young people approach marriage lightly, treating it as “halal dating” with an easy exit through divorce, they miss the profound spiritual weight that Allah has assigned to this union. The Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, taught that whoever is blessed with a righteous spouse has been helped with half of their Deen.
“Divorce is the most hated of all permitted actions to Allah. He permitted us to have divorce, but He hates it. So do I want to do something that Allah hates?” — Sheikh Alaa Elsayed
Keys to a Successful Islamic Marriage
- Commit to making the marriage work as an act of worship, understanding that one of its main objectives is to bring both spouses closer to Allah
- Practice complete transparency with your spouse about your whereabouts, finances, and plans, following the Prophetic example
- Seek your marital advice from the Quran and Sunnah, not from daytime soap operas and social media
- Invest in marriage education through workshops and books by qualified Islamic scholars
- Remember that the Sahaba modeled how spouses should help each other grow in faith and generosity
Transparency Builds Trust
“The Prophet, peace be upon him, made sure his companions knew he was not walking with a strange woman. He said, ‘I know you would never suspect me, but Shaytan always tries to instill ill thoughts.’ This is a great lesson for all of us to be transparent in our relationships.” — Sheikh Alaa Elsayed
If you want peace in your home and barakah in your marriage, look to the blueprint that Allah and His Messenger have provided. Increase your knowledge, attend workshops with your spouse, and never stop working to strengthen the bond that Allah has described as one of His greatest signs. When both husband and wife are committed to pleasing Allah first, everything else falls into place.
