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sister are you there
Alum and just so the people don't have
to take take an Arabic class from the
non-muslim what did you just say I said
Peace be unto you peace and mercy of
Allah be onto you and Allah is God the
greatest the almighty the Creator
beautiful they already learned some some
some some new Arabic terms and this is
the greeting of all the messengers and
the Creator that you mentioned is the
creator of all that exist and we're
talking about today homeschooling public
school private school Islamic school you
got to make a decision we heard that you
made a decision to homeschool now what
made you come to this decision why not
just send them to a public school well
Eddie I I've been through public school
all my life and I've realized the
effects of it um there was many things I
didn't like there was many per pressures
there was many situations I had to be in
that I was I had no idea how to deal
with because I was so different and I
you know I had no idea how to be amongst
people who you know I was like no I
don't want to do this stuff and everyone
else wanted to do it and so I said I'm
not going to put my kids through that
and so after I realized I wasn't going
to put them in public school I actually
had put my daughter in private school
for about a year and a half and M was
very good private school is pretty good
but what I noticed in private school
that you know there was a lot of Muslim
families that bring their kids to school
and the school itself is great they've
got great teachers great stuff happening
but the parents continue to not you know
lead their children in the right path at
home so when the kids would come to
school they would bring in whatever
garbage they saw on television and so
when I would see six-year-olds bringing
in makeup or you know bringing in bad
words I was like oh my God I put my kid
in the school so that they can have a
better education but why are they still
learning stuff that's not appropriate
and I realized that unfortunately some
of the parents parents were not paying
attention to their children and so
whatever they got at home they bought
back to school and now it was infecting
the kids at school and so therefore I
decided that homeschooling was the best
choice for myself because I said I
Venture they're going to be exposed to
many things but until then I want to
expose them to The Best of the Best of
You Know morals and values and all that
so they can make better decisions and
choices as they grow older inshallah now
are there some great leaders that some
people know not only Muslims but
non-muslims also that you can mention or
that you know about that we're
homeschooled and they came out to be
some of the top leaders in this Society
absolutely there's Thomas Edison
Alexander Gran Bell Orville Wright and
Wilbur Wright Leonardo da Vinci George
Washington um Abraham Lincoln Thomas
Jefferson John Quincy Adams I mean John
Madison how many of these are presidents
alone that they were all homeschooled
they were all homeschooled they were
inventors there were you know I remember
with Thomas Edison the teacher said that
when he went back home they said that
he's done
they actually called him a bad name and
said that he's not capable for education
and his mother decided to step up to the
plate and educate her herself and M you
know he he invented electricity so we
can't even sit there and say that
homeschooling does not have the right
resources does not have the right
intelligence because with homeschooling
you let the child be much more creative
much more intelligent there's no
limitation of how fast they can grow and
how much they could
do we want the best for our children
we have as Muslims those who have made
that conscious decision to submit to the
Creator alone without any Partners
co-equals the creator of the heavens and
the Earth he has sent throughout time
his guidance throughout some of the
messengers Abraham Noah Moses Jesus
Christ and the last and final messenger
the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him
who came with the verbatim word of God
the Quran which is a living living
Miracle to this day we want to live by
that system we don't want to live
according to our lusts and desires
because we want to have peace not only
in this life but in the Hereafter
because death is approaching and one of
the continuous Charities and one of the
best investments we know because when we
die we leave everything behind but if
you have a righteous child that child
who is also submitting to the Creator
doing all the good wholesome things that
the creator has told us to do and being
a benefit to society and
Humanity then you continue on getting
the rewards so we want to send them to
the right institutions and we have heard
from some of the scholars I had
a scholar on the show the other day Dr
belal Phillips and I've heard this from
shik yusf Estus and others who have said
one compared it to spiritual suicide
sending your children to public school
another said that it was like flushing
your kid down the toilet I I mean we got
to keep it real what do you think about
this absolutely facts are Eddie that 80%
of children who go to public school lose
their Dean they lose their religion it
doesn't matter if they're Muslim
Christian Jewish Buddhist Hindu they
lose their religion 80% of kids so going
into that thinking basically if you're
sending your child you already know that
you know I mean 80% of them will not
have it they will not have their de they
will not even understand it and I know
this because you know myself I look at
my own family situ situation we were
raised in America since we were six we
did not have our faith growing up we we
know we fasted in the month of Ramadan
we prayed but we really lost our Dean
because you know we didn't know any
better we were in that environment where
no one practiced it because State and
God are separate in schools so we we
really had no clue and so coming back
you know I was 30 years old coming to
find my faith and that's a shame it's
really a shame and I made decisions and
I've done things that I don't think were
appropriate whether it's saying a bad
word word when I should have never said
it or whether it's you know talking
about someone when I should have never
done it and so I did not want my
children raised the same way like we
talk about backbiting we talk about
slandering we talk about what's right or
wrong and my kids have to consciously
like the other day we were in the car we
were traveling and my son said oh Mom I
want to tell you something and I said
okay and then he said no I'm not going
to say anything and I said why not he
said because I think it might be
backbiting I said well great
alhamdulillah don't say it if you even
think it's going to be backbiting don't
say nothing you know and so we kind of
come into to the conclusions of how do
you raise them with this High morale you
know if he hears something bad you know
he'll say and he'll walk away or if they
see something like when we go to someone
else's house because obviously we cannot
control the TV everywhere right and if
someone's got their television on and
there's something bad on they'll lower
their gaze they're like okay we can't
look at this this isn't good for us so
it's kind of getting this deeper in
morale and values integrated in them and
understanding why we behave the way we
do so that inshallah when they're older
they can continue with that path does
that make any sense absolutely Ely and
that's really what I found the power of
homeschooling to be is you teaching them
the stuff that you really want to teach
them versus things that don't even
matter to them and you know there's a
lot of things that don't matter that
schools teach and you're like okay why
do we care about Valentine's Day we
don't even believe in it really so why
do we care to teach our children and
waste a week making hearts and doing
things that are just not even part of
what we believe in absolutely and I've
come to know that many Christians
non-muslims are seeing the moral
declined of the children in a lot of the
public institutions and they're also
starting to homeschool is this
absolutely absolutely there's many many
Christian homeschoolers there's many
Jewish homeschoolers many parents who
want their kids to be raised with high
morale High values and to do the right
thing at the end of the day you know to
have that good personality to not you
know um drink and smoke and do the stuff
that they also believe in that it's very
close to Islam you know and so they
continuously want to raise their
children the same way and it's right now
they're saying about 10% of America is
homeschooling and it's a billion dollar
industry right now 10% of and it's
increasing by the day because people
just really are noticing that schools
are not producing what they want to
produce and there was a doctor I mean
I'm a scientist I apologize there was a
scientist who his wife was also a
scientist and she passed away and he had
six children he decided to stay home and
work from home as a scientist and
homeschool all six of his children and
it was phenomenal because they were all
raised with such high Morales they got
to college early they learned to
self-educate themselves in so many ways
they read the Bible every day in the
evening so homeschooling has just been a
phenomenal thing and the way that people
are you like I said not wanting to not
only lose their faith but to have a good
life I was going towards Juma Juma is
the Friday uh prayer that we make as
Muslims and this program is for
everybody and I'm sure those of our
non-muslim
colleagues friends co-workers who are
listening who are our brothers in
humanity and we sincerely want the best
for for them we want them to be our
brothers in faith God willing and I'm
sure that any sensible person can see
the rationale behind this because as I
was walking to Jima there was a group of
young boys and they were coming from I
believe the high school and what turned
my stomach upside down was the foul
language that they were using it was
very bad and these are some of the
things that kids pick up if you're at
home and you're teaching your children
righteousness but if they go out to a
whole institution that's not and you
have what you mentioned earlier the
backbiting the swearing cursing gangs
drugs all sorts of mischief and evil
this is going to eventually probably
rub off on the children isn't it
absolutely you know the other day um
because my daughter has written the book
things every kid should know drugs and
the other day you know on the news there
was a story about this third grader
third grader who was selling drugs and
he yes I saw that and it was just like
my daughter's like Mom look at third
grade and I just sat there at a thinking
third grade you would never imagine as a
parent and so it's just phenomenal the
damages that can happen out there right
now now with what's going on out there
with the you know parents not in control
really of their situation their kids I
mean the 17-year-old kid took a gun and
shot his mom and dad because they told
they took his Nintendo game away
14-year-old committed suicide because
their mom said you can't watch TV so you
have to think what is happening to our
society and our youth and what will we
pay for later due to not taking care of
them early on you know there's a really
good quote saying an ounce of prevention
is worth a pound of cure right an ounce
of preventions worth a pound of cure and
what people look for is they don't take
the prevention they don't take the St
you know the steps before because they
either they don't think they can do it
or there too difficult but what happens
is when the problems Arise at the age of
16 and 18 for our youth then all of a
sudden the parents are willing to pay
anything for the Cure but it's almost
too late it's really almost too late to
take make that happen because you really
have put so much damage into those kids
that it's hard for them to change now
it's it's it takes it's going to be only
really that can cure them and so you
have to as a parent think about this
when I when my child turns 18 what do I
want from them what do I expect from
them do I expect them to say I'm 18 and
I'm leaving and I don't care I'm gonna
do whatever I want which is what the
majority of children are saying nowadays
this is exactly how they think they
think I'm 18 I'm done this is I'm it's
my life and they have no clue their true
purpose of life they have no clue about
their Dean they have no clue I mean most
of them don't even know how to pray it's
it's just many many damages out there
and also isn't bullying you have a lot
of bullying and promiscuity that you
mentioned Valentine's and then this also
I mean as innocent as some people might
think it is the passing of love letters
and notes and and starting to form
relationships in this kind of way at an
early age and next thing you know all
you got to do is turn on Jerry Springer
and you got 9 10 11 year olds 12 year
olds pregnant absolutely this is
promoting this then
it is really really sad because it's now
exactly what you said it's if you're in
fifth grade fourth grade and people ask
you if you're a virgin and you say yes
it's like you are the worst of the worst
to be to be to be known to be clean and
Pious and to be a good person is like a
bad thing now it's the other way around
it's like you are the best if you're not
part of that and um this young teenager
I was speaking to the other day was
telling me this true story about how
this guy wanted to go into the gang to
help his family his mom and stuff and
one of the you know Notions of the gang
was you have to go in the middle of the
night like 12:00 and follow some woman
and then everyone rapes her and beats
her up to death okay and then they shoot
her and this is how you get into the
gang and I said and this kid was a
teenager that was in it well
unfortunately he agreed to and he went
through this well when he did that at
the end everyone like messed up this
woman really bad she was screaming
crying and then they said okay he said
well let me just look at her before I
shoot her and when they took the bag off
of her face it was his mother wow and he
was so sad and they start crying and
that he fell off the building he died
and so did his mother and for what I
said you know when people they don't
think about it where they don't think it
could be their sister it could be their
mother that this is happening to so why
are we behaving this way why and we need
to take the matter seriously and this is
for everybody Muslim non-muslim if you
really want the best for yourself and
your family we need to think serious
turn to the one who created us who sent
down the guidance and be sincere it's
out there we're not going to tell you
and force nothing upon you but start to
within yourself want to change and then
start to look for that that can help you
change for the better that's all we're
saying tell us now a few more points we
want to get people excited about looking
into this and taking the matter more
seriously it's easy to just to as as
they say have children but if you
don't plan
properly than you plan to fail
absolutely absolutely you know that one
of the things that we don't think about
often is like we think okay when we get
old our children will take care of us
right but if we don't take care of them
when they're young and we don't give
them the right guidance and we don't
give them the right information we don't
nourish them and cherish them and love
them which the majority of society no
longer can do due to you know everyone
working two jobs and their kids are in
school and after school there's after
school programs and then they come home
late and there's no family time really
spent there's no like um what is it
quality time spent and so due to that if
we don't do that how are we going to
expect them to take care of us when
we're older when we're aged and when we
no longer can take care of ourselves
they're going to say well you didn't do
anything for us this is exactly the
mentality what did you do for me that I
should take care of you now and so what
ends up happening is our we end up going
in the nursing homes just like we don't
want to so I tell the parents when
you're looking at your child you have to
look at them exactly like you said as an
in investment there are investment in
this world for the Hereafter if we want
that you know benefit inshallah when we
die then we need to raise them to be
able to pray to be able to recite Quran
to be able to be Pious and humble and be
a servant to Allah and to help all of
mankind and if they can not due to the
fact that we're so busy and we're so
integrated into our own lives then why
would they even take care of us when
we're older why because we never raised
them that way yes absolutely yep so now
okay we talked about the institutions
but now there are some Islamic schools
but the parents they drop off the
children they're thinking a miracle is
going to happen overnight but if you in
your house are not implementing the
beautiful and wonderful loving things
that the creator of the heavens and
earth is told us to do out of his Mercy
that will only better our life that'll
bring us peace contentment and happiness
in this life and Paradise in the next
and next thing you know your child is
listening and watching TV and then you
know the kind of songs that they're
singing out there I'll give I'll give
you a taste you know there's lyrics like
brush my teeth with a bottle of Jack
promoting how drunk can you get how bad
can you behave and boys blowing up our
phones drop topping playing our favorite
CDs blowing up the parties and this is
cool and it's cool not to be a virgin
and now these are things that are being
promoted through the media through the
the
MTV and through the different American
Idol programs and everything else that
are being played through as Shayan a
story that was said once I heard a shake
mention it he said that when Shayan the
Devil comes in the house and he and he
sees the TVs all
over and and and then and it's more so
what's being played on the TVs not the
Box itself it's what's coming in he
leaves and says my job is done here y so
now if if we don't take this seriously
and then the kids are coming into the
Islamic schools will they have an
influence on the other kids whose
parents are implementing Islam and
they're watching out for these
destructive things and then they send
them to the Islamic school but then the
the the other kids they picked up on
some of the bad behavior from their
house they bring it home and now it rubs
off is this the case could this happen
also absolutely I've seen it many of
times and even though my children don't
go to private school I have a lot of
friends whose children do go to private
school and one of the moms recently was
telling me that her daughter was getting
bullied in the private school by another
girl bullied and I said are you kidding
me how can a Muslim bully a Muslim you
know like you would never imagine people
of the same Faith people with higher
morals higher values doing that and uh I
just sat there really astonished at what
I was hearing and just there's just so
much going on because the parents I mean
like I say I always say you know just
because you have the look doesn't mean
everything else is done we need to clean
ourselves from the inside out and
constantly be working on ourselves and
striving for the sake of Allah to better
ourselves and they're not a lot of
families have neglected to understand
that you know they're thinking oh it's
okay my child is just going to watch for
example Miley Cyrus or you know the
Cheetah Girls or Hannah Montana but even
in shows like that on Disney Channel
where parents think it's okay there is
so much happening that is not okay
they're still using bad words they're
still using you know girls and boys
liking each other such young ages where
we wouldn't even imagine it I mean 8
nine 10 are you kidding me like it's not
ages we think about and so parents
thinking that because their kids are
young maybe these shows don't do it and
so they don't even watch the shows even
cartoons such as SpongeBob uses
profanity I mean it might not be to the
level that other people but it's enough
for me to say I don't want my kids using
that word that's a bad word so my thing
is the parents have to take more
responsibility and more be ready to say
okay inshallah you know I'm going to do
this but again parents are too busy
they're and I tell the moms all the time
I said we got to hang up the phones we
got to stop watching it ourselves in
order for our children to learn and so I
think that they need to set Higher Goals
and Shon higher standards in order for
that private schools to be useful for
them because if you can't do it yourself
then you need to help you know
complement it and so that way at home
you're doing similarly with what you're
sending them for school inshallah
absolutely so take out the R-rated
movies unplug the cable maybe have some
good stuff planned Zachy Adam's World
are there some other substitutes that
are inspiring the children towards
righteousness and away from the bad
behavior that you recommend well you
know definitely what you said Adam's
World I highly recommend you know
brother Eddie the best thing I recommend
is getting your children to read I am a
big believer in reading and because
reading makes them think and become so
creative and the way they take a story
is phenomenal and I'll give you an
example I started my children my two
younger ones start reading at 3 and 4
and so one day my six-year-old this was
just about two weeks ago he came to me
and he started crying really bad and I
said Zafar what's wrong and he said Mama
the book the book and I said what book
what happened did I hate you he said no
I didn't hit me and he's like now I'm
starting to cry because as a mom I feel
his pain and I'm like Zafar what's wrong
tell me Habibi tell me he goes I was
reading yam's story and how his brothers
did that to him that was so mean how can
his Brothers do that to him and he just
sat there and just in pain because of
one of the messengers of Almighty Allah
of almighty God was went through this
test of life and he felt for him and he
felt really you know and I sat there and
we talked about it and I was telling him
how all of the messengers of Allah have
faced so many difficult tests and it's
for us to learn from and remember you
know and we're talking about it but had
he not been reading had he not sat down
to pick up that book he might have not
experienced that we don't experience the
same emotions with everything and I'm
you know like I said I'm a good I'm a
Believer for good education on
television or computer and stuff but
books have been the most like
lifechanging for me and reading itself
and obviously it was the first thing
that was even told to the prophet
Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam you
know to read and so my thing is if the
parents can get the kids to read more
it's phenomenal because for myself my
5-year-olds read over like 1100 books
right now my six-year-old's read over
16,700 books and Alia who's 10 she's
read over 2400 books right now wow and
it affects them it does affect them and
how they talk and their decisions and
they'll come discuss things and they'll
become more creative they'll write
differently you know and so I think
books are just phenomenal and I urge
every parent out there to give them good
books now there's bad books just like
bad TV and there's good books the good
books can spark things in our children
like we wouldn't even imagine and it's
it's unbelievable because I've seen it
with my kids and I mean if my
six-year-old can do it masallah you know
forget the other children it's they
could do it yes with the help of the
creator of the heavens and earth we can
all do it we can all do what's best for
us then we'll have a better society and
we will inshallah have that peace and
satisfaction and happiness tell us about
we discussed the public schools and some
of the things that are going on there
very bad we we turned it up a notch and
we talked about the Islamic school it's
great but we have to make sure that
we're implementing the dean the way of
life of all the messengers of God Islam
that total complete submission to the
will of the crat of the heavens and the
Earth in our homes so that we don't now
have a destructive home and then we send
them to the Islamic school and then they
bring the destruction to the Islamic
school so we have to live this life 24/7
no timeouts no
breaks and now we we want to dwell into
it we're going to have to do a part two
but just in the remainder uh uh time
that we have tell us about is it
difficult uh what do you do where do you
start people think like man this is just
too much is overbearing how do I even
begin with the
homeschooling I'd say you know first
it's your intention it's your intention
that you want to give your children the
best education the best knowledge the
best information I mean there's going to
be areas like there's subjects that I'm
not 100% great at and which is like the
Arabic language because I've never
learned it and all so what I did was I
hired a teacher to come into my house
and she teaches my kids Arabic Quran and
Islamic Studies so she'll go through
that in Islamic Studies I usually do
with them as well my myself but the
subjects that you're weak yet and you
can't you know do yourself then I would
hire someone now if many parents have
money they can still hire a really good
teacher to even come home and help with
the you know other subjects like English
math and other skills as well but the
thing is it's in your home you're
controlling what's coming inside your
home you're letting the teacher know
what they could study you're getting the
right books there's a lot of great
curriculums out there um for the you
know secular studies as well as Islamic
Studies and kind of going into cuz there
There Was You know I I have to say one
time I bought a curriculum and in this
curriculum my daughter it was a second
grade curriculum and it's like talking
about history but in the history books
unfortunately when it came during the
India Indian turn you know um times
there was a lot of naked people and I
was like my kids don't need to see this
yes so you have to be very very careful
in what's even inside the curriculums
that are being sent to homeschooling so
one of the websites I really recommend
if it's okay with you if I can share
that yes yes it's a www .
A-D a.org adha.org and they have really
a great Islamic curriculum there I've
loved it I've done it with my children
um they have t books workbooks you know
textbooks and just great stories and
information I would highly recommend if
parents want to do the Islamic stuff
there but with the non-islamic stuff I
just say you know there's Calbert
homeschooling curriculum but just be
careful I would go through the stuff
myself first to see you know if you want
to keep all of it or not there's a lot
of things like I said I had to take away
due to the fact that I didn't think it
was appropriate um you have to you know
be willing to be part of that and like I
said if it gets difficult you know you
get involved in a homeschooling
Community where there's other parents
who are also homeschooling and they're
of different races and religions but
really they're all very supportive to
each other in homeschooling you get to
go on field trips you get to control so
much more of what's coming into your
child's mind and what's coming out of
them and also like I said you know
there's the Quran programs you know if
you want your children to be a then
inshah there's so many different ways to
go about it there's Quran explorer
um.com that they can practice but Quran
reading.com is a place where my children
get um Quran lessons from so there's
different ways that you can go about it
once your the most important thing to do
brother Eddie is to make your intention
first if you make your intention that
this is something you want to do and you
want to give your kids the highest level
of Education morale and values and then
you make that intention then then you
start looking around and inshallah
you'll see there's so many other things
I also have a website called Muslims
homeschool.com that's m l Ms
homeschool.com and I have some resources
there some books that are available some
different programs some um like I said
ebooks and some videos they can watch
you know inshallah to give them a little
bit more strength I have to tell the
parents out there is it easy no it's not
easy and I will not even sugarcoat it
however it is very rewarding do I regret
it absolutely not I I think it's the
best decision I've made since I've
gotten closer to Allah subh because I
see the way my children are the way they
behave the way they're loving the way
they want to pray and recite Quran my
daughter had been wanting an iPod for a
long time and so finally I told my
husband because she's like Mom please
give me the iPod I just want Quran I
don't want anything else so finally I
told my husband and he fixed it up and
on the way to New York like just last
week she was like for like two hours
just reciting Quran Mah and it was you
know you you you you're just going to
see the benefits so so much it's
unbelievable and I highly recommend it I
think it's the best decision I've made
this gives chills to the believer to
hear such wonderful news about the child
who's reciting the verbatim word of God
the Quran and is a wave from all the
other negative things that are out there
does this transfer over some people
might ask the homeschooling the
crediting and does it transfer over to
the criteria set by the State absolutely
absolutely there's many ways you can get
the diploma you can get them a high
school diploma even while you're
homeschooling they just have to take a
couple of classes and tests at the end
it's very simple very easy and beyond
that most of the best universities and
colleges they actually go to recruit
homeschoolers because they know that
homeschoolers are very well-rounded
they're very intelligent they are um
self-sufficient in the sense of they go
out there and they're getting stuff done
they don't have to be babied and begged
and because they're you know they're in
an environment where they if they don't
get it done then it doesn't happen so
they're much more independent in their
intelligence and studying and they're
more um creative again you know
creativity is very very important
because you know everyone's always
looking for are you creative are you
becoming a leader or a follower and
homeschooling students most of them are
leaders because they're out there you
know getting it done for themselves they
they have to be independent thinkers and
so um universities are very very fond of
that and when you graduate early because
with homeschooling you can also graduate
early because you get much more done in
a short amount of time you also get
better scholarships and so there's a lot
of really great benefits to it I
definitely they can get a high school
diplom all that and I'm actually working
on doing a curriculum inshallah in the
future it's just right now it's been
quite busy but in a couple of years I'll
probably put something together where it
makes it easier for parents to just
follow a set of curriculums and then how
they can get their diploma and all that
inshallah few more points few more
points is very exciting at what age
should they start what age you're coming
up 2 3 years old what age do you start
doing this I mean they've been listening
to the Quran they've been trying to look
at the the different books with the
picture stories of the prophets is this
good enough for now but what at what age
do you get the curriculum and and and
where do you where do you start like the
formal education I'd say at two years
old I would start that's what I did with
my youngest at two years old he started
actually tracing letters by three years
old I got him into reading he started
reading and in 6 months he was reading
at a a six-year-old level by four years
old he was reading at an 8-year-old
level Mah so I would say at two if you
can start slowly because they're bored
and they're willing to do things kids
are very very you know part of their
environment if you give them the right
environment they will grow they will
just flourish mashallah so I would say
starting at that age and then just kind
of reading them the stories reading them
the books until when you see that three
they can start reading themselves every
day continue reading with them and then
start preschool my kids are all about
three grades ahead right now masallah so
my son who just turned five he's
supposed to be starting kindergarten in
the fall and he is actually starting
third grade in about a month um my and
he's the most ahead because he started a
little bit earlier my son who's six
years old is supposed to be finishing
first grade he's going to be starting
fourth grade in about a month and my
daughter who's supposed to be finishing
up fourth grade is starting seventh
grade so they're all advanced in the
sense there're just you know it's
one-on-one attention it's much more time
instead of 30 to1 to answer questions
you get much more questions answered
quicker there have much more time to
study and think and contemplate so I
would say if you can start at two to
just get them going to writing and you
know tracing by three they can start
reading inshah and just start with their
prek and K and you'll see that they're
just going to flourish themselves
masallah the books for the two-year-olds
and three-year-olds are they at this
website that you recommended yes
absolutely they're in this website at
DHA they have like a little prek thing
they also have the ABCs and the colors
and so they're doing a little bit
complimenting Arabic and Islamic Studies
Islamic Studies and um secular studies
so teaching both sides that's at the
ad-duha org they got they got both there
yes y so they have the uh books there
and a few more just a few more we're
almost out of time tell us is the
argument that some might say
homeschooling you're isolating the kid
he needs to know what's permissible
what's not so being around other kids
it's like he can experience and then
come back home and then you can teach
you can admonish you can tell him okay
this is Haram not permissible this is
and then they'll have more questions
they won't be so isolated have you got
this argument how do you answer it yes
absolutely all the time I get the whole
socialization thing I said my kids are
more socialized than you can imagine um
my daughter mashah who's nine she spoke
in front of a school in front of a 250
kids and she did a whole PowerPoint that
she put together and the principal of
the school came up to me afterwards and
said I wish that my ninth graders could
do what your 9-year-old did and so
they're very much more socialized more
because they have more confidence they
have more um self-esteem and they know
that they're okay and then I'll tell you
a really quick story because I want to
really show the parents that you know
you got to open your mind to what can be
happening I think the opposite I think
if you give them all the great stuff
then inshallah when they're out they're
being attacked or being you know in the
defensive form they can handle
themselves better well what happened
about a year ago I'd say we were in
event my daughter and I and there was a
lot of non-muslim media there and we're
actually looking into get into the media
with this different book that I had
written and one of the media people came
up to my daughter and she said does your
mom and dad force you to wear that and
my daughter looked at her and she was
talking about the hijab because all your
dresses in that by in the hijab and
allia said no and as soon as she said
that I started walking away from her I
wanted her to take care of this question
herself and answered whatever came out
of it would come out I don't want anyone
to think I was forcing her an end to
anything so I started walking away she
looked at me and I was like you can
handle it you know so I walked away and
as I'm all on the other side of the room
you know the lady looks at her and she
goes then why do you wear it and allia
looked at her and she goes well do you
obey your parents and the lady saidwell
sort of I did when I was younger but now
I'm older so I don't really have to she
goes okay well let me ask you another
question she said do you obey the
government I mean do you drink and drive
do you speed when you're not supposed to
and the lady said well no not really
because I'll get a ticket or I'll get
fined and you know so I have to try to
obey the government and Al said well if
you can obey your parents and you can
obey the government then why wouldn't I
obey my Creator who created me who gave
me two eyes my sensibility my knowledge
my why wouldn't I obey him by listening
to him this is something he has asked
and I willing to do it to obey him and I
was on the other side of the room and I
was like a la H but I said she handled
herself so by giving them the right
information and the right knowledge
they're able to handle themselves when
they're in situations and people are
trying to bring them down instead of
feeling like they don't have the
confidence or the ability they do have
it they know how to answer the questions
they know what to say so I think the
parents will be able to give them much
more self-esteem and confidence versus
you know being out there in the other
side where now they're ashamed to talk
about their parents they're ashamed or
embarrassed to talk about the stuff that
they should not
be absolutely sister this is an
inspiration to us all what wonderful
news when we hear this may the crater
continue to bless you and your family
give us a way that the viewers they can
visit to get some of your
books okay well they definitely can go
on Muslims homeschool.com and like I
said they get more information there's
also if they email us my assistant will
be able to send a book it's called like
the well-roundedness of a child it's a
eBook that a brother wrote and it's
phenomenal mallah she'll email that to
them as well but at Muslims
homeschool.com they there's all of my
books are out there and they can see and
inshallah I am actually looking to write
finish I've started writing it but I've
just been so busy but a book called The
Power of homeschooling and it's really
going to be all based on homeschooling
and the power of it and how parents can
actually initiate and start and in take
it to the next level okay so we we
discussed the the as we wrap it up and
close the public schooling definitely
something you want to stay away from
Islamic schools you have to just be in
tune with the other family members to
make sure that the other kids whose
family and we want them and and we
encourage them to be more in the dean so
then they will have good behavior taught
at the Islamic school and they'll pick
it up at home too and it's not where the
the child
at home at that age of 10 11 n they take
off the hijab at home but then they come
because their the mothers not wearing it
and then they come home it's like a
developing a split
personality yeah so uh advice to those
parents and just parents in general who
want the best for themselves and their
family the best advice I can give for a
parent is saying lead by example you're
the parent you have to control your
tongue make sure you're not backbiting
in front of your children make sure
you're not watching watching the wrong
stuff make sure you're not listening to
the wrong stuff and make sure that you
dress yourself appropriately if you
cannot do those things then your child
will follow in your footsteps no matter
what school system you send them to
unfortunately you're the first example
for them and you need to be the best
example which means you constantly need
to work on yourself first you know when
I make my mistakes I'll sit there and
I'll tell my kids okay look I made a
mistake here I'm sorry I apologize it's
because of this or I didn't know and
I'll approach them so they understand
that I'm human and I make my mistakes
not that I'm any better but that I'm
also working on fixing myself and I
think the parents need to remember that
we are their examples we are the primary
role models and if we're not doing the
talk and we're sending them and say okay
I want you to be a half of Quran yet the
parents don't recite Quran at all the
kids are going to be like then why
should I do it so you need to be in that
same position that you want your
children to be inshallah and so it's
very very important to be congruent on
everything to be on the same you know
the same path absolutely great advice
and may we all may Allah help us the
Creator to get this compulsion to do
things the right way we want to invite
you back so we can cover more of the
details on some of the steps that you
took and we'll dwell in more of the
specifics and you can give us more of
the ways that you have implemented that
have helped to produce the children that
you have who are a a step a few levels
above everybody this is amazing so would
you be willing to come back and discuss
more of this in depth inshallah
absolutely God will inshallah thank you
very much may the creator of the heavens
and the Earth reward you and inshallah
we'll see you back next
time peace be unto
you holy
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