actually being able to relax instead of
getting wound up
so it's a huge benefit selfishly it's a
huge benefit
and what i like very much indeed
is that we are all brothers and sisters
we all are
on the way to caring and looking after
and being kind towards each other
it's in the way that we are taught to
address each other
and from there on it grows so
i find there's a lot of respect there's
a lot of dignity
um given to people um
a lot of uh creative powers
are released because you're more relaxed
and less on what i call the rat race on
the treadmill
you've got more time to actually think
more creatively
and make your life better
okay let's discuss this topic because
this is very very interesting and this
is really on the tips of the tongues
of a lot of people and it actually stops
some women
and men from entering into this
beautiful way of life
so let's not pretend that we don't know
what
people are saying and thinking and let's
get right into it
someone may say well isn't it
true that in islam the woman only gets
half of the inheritance of the man
and i would say to you yes this is true
and somebody may say aha
i told you okay let's take that and
let's put it on the side
and someone else may come and say is it
not true that
uh the man can have up to four wives
and i would say yes this is true and
they say aha i got you again
this is oppression and i would say take
it and let's put this one on the side
now let's discuss the role of the man
in islam and let's see if this actually
really is oppression
okay first and foremost the man
is it is it is incumbent upon him
obligatory upon him to take care of his
wife and his family
to spend upon them to make sure they
have adequate clothing
adequate food adequate shelter that's
all the responsibility
of the man now
you might say but what if the woman
works did you know
that in islam if a woman works and makes
a lot of money and yes
women do work in islam they can work in
islam this is not an issue
provided that they work in a good clean
and halal or permissible environment
someone may say what if the woman makes
more money than the man
well the issue is every penny every
uh pound or every sterling that the that
the woman makes
is her money and the man has no right to
it
that means that if she makes a hundred
thousand dollars
and the man makes fifty thousand dollars
it is not
incumbent or wagib or upon her to spend
any of her money on the family it's
strictly
the order of the man to spend on the
family if she chooses to do it out of
her own goodness then that's not a
problem but
it is obligatory upon the man to spend
his money on the family and she can take
the money she can put in a pocket
put it in a safe put it under the
mattress she can do anything she wants
with it and he has no
right to it so right away the ma right
away the men is saying hmm
i didn't know that okay that's why we
call this section misconceptions
let's go to the other aspect of it and
they say that a man can have
up to four wives and they say this is
oppression well let's talk about it
yes it's true the men can have more than
one wife in islam and up to four wives
so somebody may say well why can't the
women have four husbands
well firstly and foremostly
what would happen if a woman had four
husbands
who could we say is the father of her
children
it would be very very difficult to tell
it could be one
two or it could be three or could be
four but likewise
the creator created men and women in a
certain fashion
and therefore the man can have up to
four wives but the woman can have
only one husband a second issue
it is known with anybody with a
calculator and just
uh being a little bit cognizant of
what's going on in the world that there
are more women than there are men
this is clear so if you take 100 men
and there are 120 women for each
man if he took just one wife let's look
at it like this
we have to take out about 30 of those
hundred men who don't have the physical
or the financial means to be able to
care for a wife
so now we're down to 70 men to 120 women
and then you have to take out a few more
of those men
who may have some type of situation
where they just cannot support a wife so
let's just take another 10 percent away
and let's just call it and be liberal 60
men
to 120 women so if
if these 60 men can only have one wife
what happens to the other 60 women
that means that they have no opportunity
to have a child
no opportunity to have a husband no
opportunity to have a family
but in islam there is no such thing as a
primary wife
a secondary wife a tertiary wife and so
on and so forth
every wife that the man marries has
equal
rights no matter if she was married to
him for ten years and the other one for
ten days
they have equal rights they have equal
rights in terms of living
equal rights in terms of how much the
man spends upon them
equal rights upon everything so
this makes it very very clear now that
the man
has to spend on his wives
and he can have up to four