salamualikum' one cankle
yes you're on the air sister go ahead
and yes and my question is I have a
problem with a short temper and this is
due to the lack of patience by our final
and it's normally directed at my husband
and child and afterwards I'm always very
grieved by and I repent yeah I find
myself affected by this often so can you
please advise me very well this is a
very important question and I appreciate
the honesty
and the frankness and the fact that you
are understanding that you have a short
temper and the fact that you are wanting
to ask for help
at hamdu lillah that is a very very very
positive sign um firstly I just want to
say something and I want you to take
this in a calm way without without
reading in too much I want to ask you if
you have any strange dreams or if you
have any strange occurrences in your
life that you do not understand because
it is possible that short tempers and
getting angry especially in a marriage
situation it is possible that this is a
sign of ahead or magic that has been
done so if you have strange dreams
regularly or you have feelings in your
body or something that are inexplicable
you cannot explain them then you should
actually see someone who will perform a
locator or exorcism on you because one
of the main problem and others sign is
that you didn't have a short temper as
you were growing up as a teenager this
only happened recently or only happened
after you got married all of a sudden
you sense a strong anger that goes from
zero to 100 in one second you don't
understand where that anger came from
and it is manifested specifically
against your husband or you seem to get
angry for no reason whatsoever you see
your husband and you become angry these
are symptoms of a bigger problem and
that is to help so if that is the case
then you should see someone a
professional or expert in this regard if
it is not the case then don't read in
and as I said that's why I said take it
calmly don't read in if these symptoms
are not there you have a regular sleep
and the anger is due to a problem of
your husband so suppose you told the
husband to throw the trash outside and
he didn't do it and you got angry at him
this is okay a short temper but it's not
said okay so if there's a reason
or cause for you to get angry then this
is a regular human problem and this is
something that insha'Allah I can be
solved with in a much easier manner how
you solve this is by understanding that
anger is something that comes from
Shaitaan overall Shaitaan is the one
that causes people to get angry a man
came to the prophet salallahu alayhi wa
sending me said ya rasulallah olsen ii o
Messenger of Allah give me advice the
man the Prophet SAW said don't get angry
the man said ok give me some more advice
the problem said don't get angry he said
more advice the process enough said
don't get angry and he kept on saying
the same thing over and over again until
the man got the point that do not get
angry
the main message the process of asking
is do not get angry now and another
hadith the Prophet SAS and I've said
anger is from Shaitaan and Shaitaan was
created from fire so when you feel angry
do will do because water extinguishes
fire so when you feel very angry close
your mouth
clamp it down and go and do will do in
another hadith the Prophet sallallahu
aleyhi wa salem saw a man arguing with
another man for money matters and he
became so angry that his forehead was
was bright red and you could see the
veins on his throat you know when people
get that angry they lose control of
everything and so the Prophet system was
seeing this and he said to the Sahaba
around him I know one word if he were to
say it or one sentence if he were to say
it all of his anger would go away one
sentence so they said what is it o
Messenger of Allah he said to say ah
Reuther billahi min ash-shaytani r-rajim
i seek refuge in allah from shaytan the
accursed
so just by saying this one sentence the
man would have calmed down but by saying
it means you say it and you understand
it and you mean it not just that you
utter it in anger and contempt but
rather you say it and you mean what you
say and that will help calm your anger
down and in fact in this particular
hadith when the man was told that the
prophets ISM is telling you to say are
the real admonition thought oh regime
his anger was so severe and so he was so
lost in his anger he in fact said I am
NOT crazy that I should seek refuge in
Shaitaan Subhan Allah he couldn't even
take
of the prophet salallahu alayhi wa
seldom and this shows us the dangers of
anger also the prophets as I'm told us
that Shaitaan runs in our body like the
blood runs in our veins and so he said
in another hadith he said so when you
get angry if you're standing then sit
down and if you're sitting down then lie
down the purpose here is to lower and
constrict the flow of blood and
therefore by lowering the flow of blood
or by calming ourselves down this too
will prevent our anger also the scholars
say that when you do get angry then
leave the situation of anger or leave
the area of anger so you're angry at
your husband for a legitimate or
illegitimate reason well then leave that
area before you say something and always
realize sister that anger can be
forgiven but words are much more
difficult to forgive an angry scowl an
angry expression this is negligible
shallowly overlooked but when that anger
is manifested then that is indeed a
major major problem and words kill more
than angered as words deep the heart
words go into the heart more than
anything else does this brings us to the
conclusion of today's Halla Club Islamic
ax as usual it was a honor and privilege
for me to be here I pray that Allah
subhana WA Ta'ala blesses me and you
with all that is good in this world and
the next
wha-hoo that I want and then
hamdulillahi rabbil alameen wa sallahu
wa sallam ala muhammadin wa aalihi wa
sahbihi ajma'in wa salaam alaikum
warahmatullahi wabarakatu