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when I come back we're going to talk
about modesty shyness many of us have
gone away from this nature to be shy you
go to the supermarket the billboards
half-naked women all over there you look
at Beyonce Britney Spears just full
naked and then the young ones are
emulating the older ones and next thing
you know you're buying your six-year-old
seven-year-old daughter clothes that
match them and you're forgetting about
shyness and modesty and that is what
we're going to be discussing today with
my next guess that's right he's back
here on a Dean so shake came out Becky
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you exactly hey I like Saddam now look
check this out check this out look we
cater to a lot of not yet Muslims now
they see this on your head and they
wonder is he one of those guys is he one
of the people that are trying to bring
harm to us is he one of those from
al-qaeda is he one of these people 911
and they're getting freaked out so we
want the truth to be able to penetrate
but want to leave e8a swage any fears
what's going on Shea you know what it's
just it's more cultural and traditional
it's not really religious you're not in
a gang no no not really if I were I'll
be the gang leader though but you not
tell you something a lot of times even
with Muslims in the West they think like
what I'm wearing now it's like the
Islamic garment it's not it's just a
cultural garment and that's why a lot of
times I wear a suit and tie like you're
doing or wear jeans and a shirt and
people be like oh you're not dressed
Islamic Lee well that isn't Islamic
anyways but people associated with being
Islamic and sometimes when you give a
lecture you put it on because people
expect that of you but not because it's
really an Islamic attire or anything
like that some people you go to certain
places and if you don't look like them
you don't dress like them you don't
sound like them we don't want them
moslems over here so they see you and it
sounds like the same people who are
telling certain people to get to the
back of the bus the same kind of racism
do you feel that this is kind of the
same thing we're talking about but it
certainly sounds the same if installed
but it's my same thing happening yeah
and you know it's interesting that for
our history in the United States there's
always a group that's suppressed you
know and you know first it was the
Native Americans then it became the
during the world wars you know the
Japanese Japanese and it became the and
maybe it still is the African Americans
one actually one african-american civil
rights leader he said that you know the
Muslim is a new Negro yo shimmy yeah so
you're actually Negro down a few so we
they went from now you hatin on the
Japanese you hating on the Native
American hating on the the
african-american but now you hate not
all of them because a Muslim is one who
acquires peas by submitting to the owner
of peace and Muslims are white black
yellow or veil of all the above yeah but
this hatreds got to stop doesn't it
needs to stop and this isn't this isn't
the way and this isn't why a lot of the
the immigrants that came to America they
came under the pizza you know and
thinking that that wouldn't exist in
america so it's unamerican if I can if I
could say that you know and even those
before we get to our main top even those
who have this this hatred this racism I
have trust that they can change because
if some of the harshest enemies of Islam
back then and simply Islam means to
acquire peace by submitting to the One
God right this is what i mean so even
those opponents of islam way back then
they accepted islam when they just got
to open the heart and mind and we're
exposed to it right i mean i don't want
to repeat jokes on your show but i think
i said this before we sell it again when
it was halloween and when i was friday
and i was going to friday prayer which
is around noon so I was dressed like
this and this old lady's walking her dog
and she saw me she said oh you're
starting early so he thought this is my
halloween costume you know I'm sure now
they're laughing and you know what
someone even the biggest hater he's got
a smile on his face absolutely so we
kind of you know melting his heart but
if I might say mashallah you look very
nice there's thank you you can't see it
but I see it there's newer coming like
coming out on bang we trying to keep up
with you that's a lot so let's start now
let's do it you go into the supermarket
and bam it's in your face right BAM it's
over here you turn over here it's talk
for the law you got to turn man you
can't look nowhere it seems like more
and more people are going away from
shyness from modesty it's not the cool
thing you got to show more rather than
less what is going on excellent you know
let's first define it right so modesty
in Arabic is higher
right and the word hiya in Arabic it's
actually a little bit more than modesty
it it's it has bashfulness in it has
modesty in it and it also has in it self
respect if you respect yourself and you
don't want to humiliate yourself in
front of Allah in front of other people
and in front of yourself then you'll
have this type of higher self respect
humility yes absolutely so it's a
mixture of all these things put together
and you know very very useful all of
them all valuable meanings so the the
thing is that yes everyone's supposed to
have modesty but I'll tell you even now
amongst Muslims they see that if you're
modest that you're not what are the
words they use that you're not you know
you know I'm like in your face you're
not you know you don't take control of
things you know you don't take the
initiative because of this guy has
modesty yeah so people confuse it with
having weak personality and the confuse
it with a lot of things that I hope
inshallah in this episode we can clear
some of that fog in charge now how do we
get people to realize that you know
showing less is better than showing more
and it starts at an early age in
elementary schools out of the public
schools you know what if you're not it
seems like it's not cool if you're
showing more you got you know this out
here and that out there then you know
what now you're getting the boys
attention and now like the one who's not
showing she's modest she shot she's not
getting the attention so now you know we
fall into the trap but what is Islam
what is the way of God what is this this
is what God wants for for you to just be
just selling out and showing everything
out there for just a dollar for the
money absolutely not and you know this
is one of the problems right first of
all when this is one of the things that
psychologists say about it even
non-muslims they're saying that when a
woman is taught that her value is
related to her sexuality then she does
everything to promote her sexuality to
dress seductively to AXA ductive Lee to
be promiscuous because he learned that
that's her value in society and this is
what women learn now you know they dress
skimpily so that men can appreciate them
and you know whistle at them and harass
them in that way and you know in
magazines they want to sell a movie you
put a scene in it with a woman you want
to sell a magazine you put
woman on the cover even things they're
totally unrelated you put a woman in the
commercial to sell it so then the woman
has come down to a level of being a
commodity pushing device more or object
more so than you know have a human being
with value one of the interesting things
and you'll see and your viewers will see
how this is so true we know if a woman
enters a room if it's a board meeting
whatever it is a chest do presentation
and she enters in with you know scantily
clad and she's showing her body parts
the men in the room will never
appreciate her intelligence first she
will walk in as an object she's not
going to walk in they're going to say oh
she looks intelligent they're going to
look at her as a sexual object and then
maybe if she's smart she can impress
them and they'll think oh which is also
smart but first the only seer is an
object and this is one of the problems
you'll find that in the West a lot of
times men can like the society cannot
take a woman who is effeminate as a
leader they cannot accept her as a
leader and if you look at it most of the
times the leaders the female leaders in
the West are very androgynous is the
word they they use because it means that
they have male characteristics like they
wear either these suits in other female
suit I don't know what they call it yes
they have short hair styles and the list
I mean Margaret Thatcher in the UK short
hair stoic as they describe her not me
yes Hillary Clinton short hair again
they describe her as in a cold and stoic
Condoleezza lies rise against short
hairs a pattern here Janet Reno if you
recall it's Saturday Night Live these to
constantly make fun of her as a man
Janet Reno's a man constantly what
they're doing yeah because they can only
they can accept an effeminate women in a
leadership position because to them
they've been trained with movies and
magazines she's just a sexual sexual
object but when a woman you know looks
more masculine not my words again then
they can accept her because they
feminine woman is just an object so the
woman has become nothing but an object
now and that's why the subject of higher
is so much more important now we know
that Islam which cause a person to
acquire peace and I keep saying this
because a lot of times many of the
viewers have heard it but there's a good
chance and I know that there's thousands
of noon
yet Muslims at 29 they hear this arabic
word what's this all about this is some
new religion now this is the same way of
life that was lived by all and taught by
all the messengers of God submit to the
One God your will to his will so along
with that call then the development of
your character being the best human
being that you can be and now this we're
talking about today that shine is that
modesty that is escaping us right how do
we get it back well that's that that's
the question of the day right how do you
get it back and of course the good thing
is you can get it back because if you
couldn't get it back Allah wouldn't
commanded of you yes to have higher you
know a number of things and so many
excellent examples you know they
describe the Providence island because
now even Muslim men think hires only for
the woman yeah I don't have to have hiya
I don't have to be modest and shy and
bashful and humble and you know so what
we describe the process seldom that he
was the most modest amongst us and he
was more shy more bashful than a virgin
girl on the first night of her wedding I
mean you can imagine how this
description how she would be so bashful
the Priscilla more bashful than her and
this is a man and a leader and the
general and the courageous man but still
he had this quality and then the rest of
the narration says that and if he
dislikes something we could see it
immediately in his face so it's not just
for women men also are supposed to have
higher meaning this supposed to be shy
or have modesty be bashful as well you
know and have the self respect so it's
not just for the women something that's
a quality of a believer so we're going
to take a break and we'll be back with
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afraid to stand alone I am not afraid to
stand alone if Allah is by my side I am
not afraid to stay alone I am not afraid
to stand alone if allies by my side I am
not afraid to stay
the Quran says don't kill women don't
don't kill old people don't attack the
civilians this is what the Prophet
Muhammad told us it will fail you mock
you know Allah so that the prophet or
solid never ever start a war against any
of us from so if you find yourself your
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is nano woody to be worshipped except
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here on the Dean show with sheikh ahmad
and mekhi thank you for defining the
time it's always always a pleasure to
have you on the Dean show well you know
it's my pleasure and I'm I'm always here
for one thing and one thing only right
and that's to hold it down on the Dean
show early art that work that was one of
our guests absolutely the other that
brother also like many of them we've had
Napoleon from the outlaws Tupac screw
former crew Elune and then from jay z's
out these people are coming to islam
they're coming to the realization that
you know what all this money and glamour
and glitz is not where it's at Absalom
is where it's at it's cool to be a
Muslim doing all the good at the craters
toilet called us to do it's the new
block so tell us now tell us now tell us
now look at his look at it okay we're
going to start and give some practical
examples of the shyness let's say for
the man you know you go into from a
young age they try to throw all them in
together and a shower naked you know or
you just shirt off and you flex in here
and every your neighbor everything is
showing so now you grow up in a culture
that's doing that all right where what
is Islam call you to do and now the
person that's listening is going to be
like you know what that makes more sense
right
and and just what kind of we touched on
earlier that when you have higher when
you have modesty and shyness and
bashfulness it's not that you now have a
weak personality or that you're scared
of people or that you not courageous
enough and you're not confrontational
it's actually because people with they
confuse it with I don't think you're
weak because last time you talking about
500 on the bench oh that's easy that's
nothing so so so the idea is this that
the profits of a large Salem told us in
a hadith he said L hiya Leah Thiele be
here basically it means that nothing
except good comes out of modesty yes no
bad comes out of it whatsoever only good
comes out of it so if you think that you
know hiya means you'll get your rights
trampled upon people push you around
your miskin you're confusing what hiya
is that's not what hat I asked to have
modesty to have bashfulness and that's
why we always tell sisters you're
supposed to have higher right and then
they tell you things like why should I
be afraid of the man you know you know
he looks at he looks at me in the eye
and I supposed to lower my gaze I'll
stare him down you know if he wants to
fight with me I'll fight back he wants
to exchange bad word yeah that's not
hyah what we're saying we're not saying
let your rights be trampled upon we're
saying don't lose your hyah in the
process of regaining your rights yes
which is how it's supposed to be one of
the fantastic examples is that of eye
shadow below and hide the wife of the
Prophet SAW signal so the problem when
he passed away he was buried in what
they call her apartment or her room then
the first his successor the first
Khalifa Calif Dibakar passed away and he
was buried in her room as well so she
narrates she said I used to be you know
relaxed about what I wear because I
would say it's my husband and my father
were buried in there so I wouldn't have
to wear the hijab things like that as I
entered in the room she said then when
Omar alone I know who the successor of
the successor when he was buried this
one the Companions now so they know the
record and this was the second Calif in
Islamic history can you compare like
president yeah exactly like the leader
leader so then when when he passed away
and he was buried in her room she said I
could not come in uncovered she had to
she said I would cover up properly out
of hyatt from Alma shyness can you
imagine that out of shyness from a dead
person who is buried underground
yet this is the kind of higher that she
had this is the mother of the believers
I show the role model for the Muslim
woman now of course people who don't
have higher will see this as well that
doesn't make any sense but for those who
have higher it makes perfect sense now
look look if you're in a situation a
Muslim man and will go to the woman the
Muslim man now you know sometimes you
know awkward situation and say you're at
the gym and you know you turn around and
it's just normal the person just be BAM
just everything's out there a Muslim he
hides his privates hides his his private
areas to explain this how should a prick
like you going running for instance as
part of shine is what should you be
covering you know do you show your
thighs and your no ain't no speedos and
you know run-in and I gotta talk to us
excellent well for the man it's for him
to cover from his navel all the way up
to his knees no one needs to see the the
private exam your wife exactly
absolutely and no one of the things is
that people argue things they say things
like well it's natural for you to be
uncovered because you were born
uncovered you are born naked you say so
what's the problem what we say to that
is that there's actually a very strong
link between you're a man which is your
belief in allah azzawajal and your your
higher your modesty and your bashfulness
and if you if someone were not that i
recommend this but if someone were to
interview people have let's say a new
this camp you will find that most of
them probably don't have much in mind
anyways or don't have belief in allah or
they're probably atheist or something of
that sort yeah so the true relationship
is that what is natural is for the human
being to cover the private part not to
uncover because if we go back to the
story of Adam and Eve the first thing
they did when they discovered that they
were on adam lee the first man a first
woman yes great example when they sinned
then they realize that they were naked
yeah the first thing the first action
that they did after discovering they
were naked was to try to cover they try
to cover the nakedness right great exact
is so that means the natural thing is to
cover your private parts not to uncover
them yeah as they want to argue kids
were born naked what do you want them to
be born in suits and ties and stuff came
out in a facade to your exhaust suit
he'll cry heal spell out the way he
cries waa okay doesn't work it doesn't
work like that so the thing is that the
more natural thing is to cover
very interesting just to throw this in
the word Allah which is the word for
private part in Arabic it actually means
something that's shameful so it's
natural to cover it up you know even
little children if you sometimes you
know if they're 45 years old you uncover
them they say no no you know people will
see me because it's natural to want to
cover the private part not to uncover
which is basically when you know kind of
the calls that we've started hearing
after the sexual revolution in the late
60s in the early 70s after that people
started to call to that and and equate
that with liberation so if you're
covered your oppressed dislike how they
have sumos llam women because they're
covered they're oppressed by men and
that's why they're covered but if you're
uncovered you liberate it and you end up
some problems very clear problems with
that argument right tell because that
means if you're wearing any amount of
clothing even if it's very skimpy you
still not fully liberated so the argue
with argument would be why don't you
fully liberate yourself you know there
was actually one time a speaker who's
giving a lecture and then a non-muslim
woman came in and she started pointing
it though and the Muslim woman that were
covered and she was yelling at the
speaker why are they covered like that
assuming you're oppressing them that's
why they're covered yeah so he said well
you were born naked why are you closed
right now Wow and she said modesty and
she just chose the right word yeah she
said modesty he said well modesty more
modesty modesty more modesty that's the
argument in that just goes with nature
man I mean if you're covered because of
modesty if that means if they're covered
more it's more modesty yes and
uncovering doesn't mean liberation no
just means lack of modesty that's all it
means I really think you know because we
have the chief deceiver and people
forget I mean that you have this devil
and the satanic forces and he's pimping
people that he's working day and night
to pimp the man to pimp the woman and by
going away from the guidance of the
crater he's pimping you take it off take
it all off absolutely yes and now you
just become a commodity you're just a
toy for the man exactly isn't that so
true it's very truth for any and it's
getting worse and worse every time you
know in the 1920s in America for women
were wore pants that was there was an
uproar was they weren't even allowed to
actually so but then you know the
standards become worse and worse
and worse and worse the more you go back
isn't it they wouldn't show a lot of
things that are unsigned the TV you know
the right to security all the just
horrific things that you see you go back
you know women they have to cover their
arms and the law skirt this is in
America but I'll tell you something
interesting like like early in the 50s
and 60s even before that the argument
but the Liberals were making is that you
know people will will fornicate and
commit zina and and do wicked deeds so
long as you forbid them from it so
they're using the forbidden fruit
argument as long as you forbid people
they're going to do that but if you
allow it people are going to take it
easy and they're just going to leave it
and so the conservatives today they
argue they say look now things have
gotten worse you said if we allow people
to do what they want to do it's going to
get people are going to take it you know
easy and just forget about it so I'm
going to become in the forefront of
their mind but the opposite has happened
now because people allowed a little bit
of promiscuity they allow someone to
show this much of this their hand and
then that much of their like it got
worse today the standards have become a
lot worse so it's the opposite of the
forbidden fruit argument which they also
use for example they tell you in Sweden
the teenage pregnancy rate is much lower
than in the United States right and they
say because in at an early age they
teach the kids in school about
contraceptives and this and that and so
on and that's why we should do the same
thing in America because you know
there's some stigma and they don't
discuss it openly and so therefore
people do it and then they have teenage
pregnancies that kind of solution is not
acceptable in Islam because in the end
you still have youth committing zina
yeah sin is not acceptable it's not
about whether or not they use you know
protection or concert contraceptives
it's about the act of xena fornication
occasion so it's not acceptable so this
is some of the problems you know people
try to make arguments like that but they
don't work let's uh we're going to take
a break their signal we got to go for
break we'll be right back with more on
the Dean show one God wishes him alone
do what he wants you to do put your
desire is this thing inside you that
just wants this and wants that and you
just can't get enough you know what
you'll never get enough until the dirts
in your mom don't
come to that be sincere and honest asked
the one who created you to guide race
the first step put off chasing all the
women and the good times and the parties
and this and that there is no one would
be a voice it except Allah don't wait
you never know is that would come today
for your back here on the Dean show and
again we are really stressing that this
way of life Islam calls to everything
good and a sincere person who's not
wanting to follow their lusts and
desires I don't think anyone the father
that's looking at his daughter he don't
want no googly eyed man all over his
daughter and trying to molest her with
his eyes and you want to protect was so
precious to you you don't like people
touching your car but now that girl goes
out and what's the first thing on the
mind of the man right that's how it is
but now what's Islam saying protect the
most valuable things our women can you
elaborate again I mean just this is the
rationale and talk about please how we
worry about our money and our cars and
all these things about how Islam all
right it really puts the women to such a
high level of this way that would really
like protect it from all this evil and I
think you said it best anything that's
valuable you protected you cover it yes
you typically cover the valuable thing
right so if you know even women their
most valuable jewelry item it's covered
they don't put it out in the dining
table you know or you know on the
dashboard of the car it's covered it's
protected and anything that's due to you
cover and you protect it and so you know
the chastity the modesty that all these
things the beauty of the woman it's
supposed to be protected therefore it's
supposed to be covered when it's not
covered many bad things happen in
society the way men look at women and
this is something that has happened now
in north america and i don't know how
many if we were to reverse it it would
take decades to transfer this image of
how women have become in the minds of
men they've just become like targets you
know yeah and they talk about them also
like items like objects not as human
beings and that's why you know to show
the importance of high
and in the profits of Salem he described
that Iman belief and owned and in Allah
has 70 odd branches many branches the
highest of which is to say that I had a
lot that no God is worthy of worship
except Allah alone the lowest level is
to remove an obstacle or an obstruction
from the road so then but notice he said
there are 70 odd branches of a man then
he gives only one yeah translated faith
or faith or belief right then he gives
only one example and he said well hiya
build a man a man and modesty is one of
the branches of a man so very quickly
the scholars say why did he only give
that one example they say because if you
have this one characteristic modesty you
will get everything else so our sisters
in humanity are sisters in Islam this
goes back again to shyness coming back
to shyness and then naturally you're
going to want to observe the hijab and
you're going to want to implement all
the good that the craters told us to do
the complete shyness absolutely and is
this you know for the sisters also we're
having a hard time with the hijab what
advice do you give to them you know the
reminder is that and I know we're
running out of time but one of the
scholars have categorized modesty or
shyness into six different types but one
of the most important ones is having
shyness with Allah subhana Todd you know
people will use bad words in but they're
ashamed to use it in front of an elderly
person but they're not a shame to use in
front of Allah those smoke they aren't
hide it from the imam or from the
religious leader in the local community
but they don't hide it from Allah you
know a woman will uncover in front of
her father maybe she has another outfit
to make him think she's dressed well but
in front of Allah she's not dressed well
it's for the believing men and women to
constantly remember the fact that allah
so allah is watching and you should be
more shy of a load and you are of other
individuals that you held in high regard
you know and that's why the scholars say
that sometimes the sin you're committing
or the fact that you don't care that
allah sees you're committing a sin can
be worse than the sin itself that you're
committing that's deep that's deep last
minute last minute so just some some
some examples now shyness in the way you
speak not using curse words saying good
things what I was dressing properly
talking properly acting properly what is
it in dealings with you in everything in
business dealings a shading yeah because
some people tell you know you know
you've heard the saying businesses
business meaning business is business I
can be cutthroat I could be rude to you
but then after that we can go get dinner
together or what how does it work it
doesn't work like that because your good
manners is a constant it's something
that's constant not something that you
do whenever you're in a good mood or you
can turn off your good manners because
we're in a business meeting no so it's
constant so high and everything in
speech in dealings in dressing in
behavior and walking in everything with
your parents everything gun-shy being
modest is what Islam is calling us to
thank you very much my pleasure ID Allah
reward you well then go ahead thank you
very much and thank you again again you
you've got to learn something new we've
always stressed the call to worship just
the crater not is creation character
development and then shyness you got to
learn about shyness is something again
that just goes up here with your nature
and everything if you investigate Islam
you'll see that everything you learn it
just makes sense it's not something
that's weird you're not doing something
that's way out there bizarre something
mr. go and only you know esoteric we're
just a few people understand this Islam
is something that's from the Creator so
it's got to make sense and I'm sure if
you have an open heart and open mind you
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peace be unto you is the main one of the
beautiful things about our religion of
Islam is the emphasis on direct ritual
and prayer who got
rectly there is no intermediary the
lights will go on after the party and
the party will end it's very simple and
very clear there are no superstitious
rituals no strange incantations the time
is running out we might not make it to
tomorrow and this is something that we
need to think about no speech is better
than to do that was call people to Allah
and to do there were no speech is better
no nothing is better than that is it
true that if one person I'm the Allah
giving you an ability to guide someone
for the lost permission the craters
permission that was better than
everything in this world but in the
whole world and everything that's in it
in another narration it's better than
the best of wealth but if we really felt
that Eddie would we not be giving out
getting down and this is something that
we encourage all the msas all the dowel
organizations the mustards forget this
we want to create more we give these to
the non melissa's for free for free for
free we want our brothers it eats combed
it lay everybody sleeping I arise and
ask a lot of thinking me omar you see
hola you know all the sins I do I turn
to you to figure my sin tomorrow I'm you
seem for slave you don't my love in Lord
I'm the one runs away all the guide me