B alhamdulillah peace be with you I'm
Eddie your host you're watching the dean
show and I have the author of holiday
myths Dr Hakeem quick and Valentine's
Day is right around the corner and after
this show you'll never look at
Valentine's Day again the same we got
some facts not fiction for you to give
you the
origins of Valentine's and then let you
at the end decide is this something that
I should be celebrating that I should
bring and incorp into my life and with
my children and my family we're going to
let you be the judge after this exciting
show about Valentine's Day here on the
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Abdullah hakee quick salam alaikum sh
peace be with you how are you
alhamdulillah I'm very excited you know
what this is what we call the destiny of
the creator of the heavens and earth CU
let me tell you what was going on in my
mind you know I uh was thinking like
alhamdulillah word got out that you're
coming into town at the the Paul
University you're giving a lecture and
but I'm traveling on the weekend but
your your your lectures on the weekend
I'm like you know what and and and the
the the brothers uh from Al m i I used
to know the the former Amir there so
nobody reached out to me usually we used
to collaborate any anybody will come out
you know and we'll get him on the show
so it just I was like you know what I
was a little sad I said man you know
he's going to be busy and uh I'm going
to be traveling but then I get the call
Yousef ISF gives me a call the the the
brother who's the attorney who who
approached you and he said I'm here with
shik Abdul Hakim quick I said the dean
show tell him we we is is he available
let's do the show because we worked
together before you know and then we get
on the phone Allah made it happen and
we're here again alhamdulillah
alhamdulillah amazing so that was very
uh interesting uh so we as I open the
show we talk we're talking about now
this holiday that's coming up
Valentine's Day and you know this is
something that you know is is dominant
now in in the culture you know and so we
we want to educate the people somewhat
of the roots to talk about the roots
where this is coming from and at the end
you know let the people make a sound
decision you know is this something
really that want to teach my children is
this something that I want to propagate
in my family and a lot of Muslims you
know nowadays you know Valentine's hits
the women starting some of the schools I
don't know if you noticed this they
start to wear the pink hijabs the boys
wearing the pink shirts and you know
it's all innocent but at the end you
know Fatima gets pregnant or John you
know uh has a baby out of wedlock and it
it's not so innocent anymore so let's
let's talk about Valentine's Day
sh uh it is important for us when we
look at the issue of holiday myths
uh that we look at the whole picture and
from the beginning of time people
worshiped the Creator in different ways
the Quran tells us in the chapter of the
B and verily we have sent to every
nation a messenger that they worship
Allah and stay away from false gods so
amongst the people there were those who
believed in one God but there were also
people who who BAS their religion on um
natural things so they base their
religions on the movement of the Sun the
Stars the heavenly bodies also on the
natural Seasons so whether it's summer
season Fall Winter
Spring also on reproduction so the the
the mysteries of sexual activity and
reproduction within nature so these
nature groups spread throughout the
world
and um they came in contact with the
teachings of uh Jesus Isa alisam when
some of his followers ended up in Greece
and in Rome and we know that um these
followers to a great extent were
influenced by Paul who had uh accepted
his teachings but then started to change
the message somewhat sort of opening up
the doors for other types of beliefs now
what comes out of this is that the
Romans re acted against the Believers in
one God and they began to torture them
so you'd see that not only the
Gladiators and the coliseums but also
Christians were being tortured thrown to
the Lions and the hyenas and the dogs
and so somewhere along the line somebody
said or did the old saying uh if you
can't beat them join them and so um an
amalgamation between the nature-based
religions and the belief in one God came
about so that what existed was a new
religion a new form of uh spirituality
and and that combined the basis of it
was the these these three elements the
movement of the
seasons um the heavenly bodies and
sexuality and so the the the Cults began
to influence and so we are going into
February now and coming out of January
coming out of the new year and that was
a big confusion for a lot of Muslims
because December 25th was not actually
the birthday of Christ he wasn't born on
December 2th no I mean most theologians
will agree he was born in the warm
weather yeah even in the Christian
belief um the the Shepherds were had
their flocks outside they were paying
their taxes and the taxes were paid with
ripen fruits and and these only uh come
about in the warm Seasons the the
Islamic concept has Mary Mary and mayow
be pleased with her um being told by the
angel shake the the date palm tree and
the ripe dates will come down that
happens in in the in the warm season now
you you are I when I introduced the show
I mean when I introduced you before you
you came out I said you're you're a
historian is that you studi this in
depth right I I have a PhD a Ms and a
PhD from the University of Toronto and
also it was my it's my passion to study
history and to look at the roots of
words and what influences Us in the
world today so when you look at this
season now people are talking about the
birth of Christ but actually the
ceremony that is going on is the Balia
of the Greeks and the satalia of the
Romans and this was a drunken orgy and
so many different strange things are
happening and this is the reason why
people get confused in the Christmas
season because it's supposed to be the
birthday of Christ but there is more
alcohol being drunk more people being
raped more death on the high Highway
than any other time of the year so
that's where you get those clashes
between the two now going into
January um the solar calendar tells us
that actually the new year is not
January and people say well how can you
say this but let's count in Latin
September is septum that's seven October
like an octagon eight sides that's the
eighth month of the year November is
nine and December is the 10th month of
the year not the 12th month of the solar
year that's clear in the Latin the 11th
uh month was January and the 12th month
is February so the beginning of of the
year for the people who who followed the
seasons was in March okay so January was
based on Janice who is the two-faced God
he's got one face of spirituality and
another face of
materialism and that's the hypocritical
nature of the new New Year's celebration
it's supposed to be a spiritual event
but actually again people are drinking
alcohol and being involved in in a lot
of rius occasions so so this is the
confusion now going into February into
February now there was a there was a
celebration done by the Romans called
the lupercalia and the lupercalia was
based upon their gods of pan and Juno
and um they also Al February is actually
named after one of their gods as well
and so this is a time where you're
coming out of the winter and you're
going toward the spring season and so
they used to uh have large Gatherings of
young people and they would take the
name of
women put them in a large container and
the men would choose them and literally
have a sexual relationship so it was
based upon this you know Cupid concept
the Greek word is uh Aeros is modern day
Valentine yeah so I want to tell you
where where where where it comes in now
yeah the Greek word is Eros erotica mhm
okay so erotica is is basically
sexuality and so that that was the main
issue on this occasion and this is where
you get Cupids from and HS and things
like that cuz this is actually the
ceremony of you know open
sexuality what happened was they
combined this with an individual named
Valentine
who in the Roman times in the in the
third Century of the Roman era he was
protecting young people the Romans said
no marriage cuz we want men to fight
strong in battle so we're not going to
let you get married Valentine you know a
religious priest he disagreed with this
they put him in jail he went against the
state eventually they executed him and
on the day of his execution he wrote a
letter to two of the young people
getting married and he said from your
Valentine
so that's where Valentine he's St
Valentine's so so so they took the
concept of the open sexuality put the
name of of a Christian priest on it so
it seems like a holy day but actually
it's the open sexuality of the
lupercalia and that is the dangerous
thing uh for Muslims and people of
conscience to get involved in this
because what happens is pornography
erotica this overcomes everything else
so it seems like it's innocent it's like
they say a wolf in sheep's clothing it
seems like it's innocent because
Valentine was protecting young people
but the reality is it is an occasion
where more people commit fornication and
adultery where rape happens unwanted
pregnancy it is actually a dangerous
time we're going to take a break shake
and we're going to continue on here with
the Valentine's holiday that is right
around the corner and we want you to be
educated so we got an educated historian
here to kind of give you the roots of it
and we're be asking some more questions
here on the de show so don't go nowhere
you think these things are going to
bring you happiness you know why you
keep going back to the club and you keep
going back to these
desires cuz you never find
satisfaction it's going to end up
causing you if it hasn't already a lot
of
pain you think you're happy you're
kidding yourself you really
are what we are offering in Islam what
we have found in Islam for our ourselves
is a means by which our hearts are at
peace they're at rest they're not
discontent we are pleased with what we
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have back here on the dean show with Dr
shik Abdullah hakeim quick we're talking
about Valentine's right around the
corner tell us now okay so is there
anything more to to the to the roote
here it started off with something of
promiscuity erotic you know let's it's
not about getting together in marriage
the way the Creator wants this is just
you know uh just just hook up you know
freestyle whatever goes so they take
this U this Christian man his name is
Valentine put his name on top of it and
call it Valentine's right so he he is an
innocent person he is a a religious
person who's protecting young people and
wanting them to get married according to
the rules of the church yeah but but the
but the ceremony that's underneath the
current that's underneath is loose
sexuality and and this is where you see
pictures of the Cupid cuz this is Cupid
his Greek name is Aeros yeah that's
erotica and that is the reason why you
will see in many of the movies uh today
erotica is an overriding um concept so
the the movie stars are in space and
they're fighting aliens and someone
falls in love they're under the ocean
fighting you know a beast under the
ocean someone falls in love they're
playing baseball or basketball somebody
falls in love every movie they're fallen
in love why why erotica so erotica is
this uh concept coming out of the Greek
culture that um you know push the people
towards uh loose open sexual
relationship and this of course is very
destructive to society not only is it
going against you know the law of God
but secondly um it creates unwanted
pregnancies uh sexually transmitted
diseases uh it is one of the big
problems and plagues in the world today
when people do not organize their life
take responsibility for their sexuality
uh there's a lot of damage that actually
comes along with it especially for the
women and so therefore we're saying to
Muslims don't play around with the devil
don't play around with evil things and
think that it is uh Sport and play
because what is happening is that young
people are being uh fooled into focusing
their life on their sexuality as opposed
to folks focusing their life on their
education on their physical fitness uh
and then grow into their sexuality this
is how societies developed themselves
over the centuries and of course the
last Revelation you know of the Quran uh
brought us the beautiful example of the
husband and the wife and the family and
how people can protect themselves and
how sexuality can actually be a
beautiful thing it can be a Halal
permissible thing and not something wild
and and and uncontrolled tell us now for
the person who's just tuning in you know
they got their friend and they said look
man this this Valentine's Day there's
more to it but you know what it's in our
Public Schools it's all over the place
look Johnny just wants to tell Susie
that she's cute you know what I mean
innocent no kids are passing around
what's the big deal well of course um
again this is the wolf in sheep's
clothing wolf and sheep's clothing
meaning that it appears to be innocent
on the outside yeah and you know if a
person is if a boy is pass a comment to
a girl or vice versa there's nothing
wrong with that in in the essence the
problem is is that the the socialization
that the society itself teaches people
how to take it a step further and so
when they watch the television programs
or movies then they will see how it goes
a step further even cartoons the two
ducks you know and the cartoons are fall
in love Duck Donald Duck I mean
everybody's falling in love now and so
that's erotica and so the dangerous
thing is it opens up the door you know
to a bottomless pit you know it's a
dangerous area because sexuality is a
natural thing and when we look at at the
Quran it tells
us the Quran the last Testament says do
not come close to fornication and
adultery this is what God Almighty the
Creator say that's what God said because
it is an Abomination and it will destroy
everything in the path now other sins do
not kill do not steal do not be jealous
of your neighbor you know Allah says
don't do
it don't kill innocent people Allah
didn't say don't commit adultery he said
don't come near adultery now what Islam
is saying about sexuality uh is very
important because the creator of the
heavens and the Earth uh is revealing to
people there are certain actions that
you shouldn't do you shouldn't kill you
shouldn't steal you shouldn't be jealous
of your neighbor um you shouldn't you
know be involved in Magic and uh taking
of interest and so forth and so on but
when it comes to adultery and
fornication Allah
says so it says don't come near
fornication don't come near adultery
because it is an Abomination and it will
destroy everything in the past so this
is a dangerous um thing it it doesn't
say don't commit adultery it said don't
come near it now why is there a
difference between uh killing and
adultery because killing is not a
natural thing and any human being who
sees another person killed is should be
repulsed by that it's an ugly detestable
thing but
sexuality that's what our bodies are
created for and so a man is naturally
attracted to a woman a woman is
attracted to a man so that's why Allah
said don't come near it because it's a
it's something that we want to do we are
built to do that in order for the
species you know to to maintain itself
so therefore what Islam is saying is
that yes have sexuality but do it within
the confines of marriage do it in an
organized fashion where the man respects
the woman where you know the family is
set up you know where he takes care of
his children that's the way it is the
lupercalia the Valentine's erotica
concept is uncontrolled undisciplined
sexuality and it starts with that little
note sent to Jane or sent to zanab
that's how it starts off just the innoc
in the pink hijab yeah you know I don't
know if they have pink Kies or you know
the pink TH or whatever it is no we
don't get involved at all and people of
Consciousness Muslims those who have
consciously submitted to the one Creator
just the same way as Jesus Moses CU we
following that same tradition they
worshiping God Alone not his creation
Muslim that was a Muslim is we should
understand this but you mentioned
earlier people of a Consciousness people
they're not Muslim yet we hopefully
they'll submit to the one God and do
what God wants them to do on his terms
not their desires people of
Consciousness should understand this
right exactly and you'll find there are
groups in Christianity and Judaism and
other religions that know about the
history of the lupercalia they know this
and they also are protecting themself
and their sexuality there are Christian
groups who give out a ring they they
they pledge thems they put on a ring and
they say we we we are pledging ourselves
to be to to have sex in marriage we're
not going to be involved in illegal sex
until we get married these are Christian
groups because this is the basis in all
upstanding religions you know to protect
the family to protect the sexuality and
therefore you protect Society CH we're
going to take a break and God willing
will be back with more here in the dean
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okay you've got your dream home and
you've got your dream car but you're
going to get old and things are going to
happen to in your life and then what
have you got at the end of the day it's
an empty dream that has no real
Foundation we are going to die and we're
going to meet our Lord and he is going
to judge us it becomes an obligation for
each single human being to find out what
the Quran is Islam is telling us to stay
away from things which are bad for your
person and bad for the society
Islam prohibits killing of innocent
human beings human life is
precious there will always be someone
that will be there to say something
negative but at the same time there'll
be someone there to say something
positive also just hold on to the Rope
of Allah everything in this universe
rely and need Allah the Quran says don't
kill women don't kill children don't
kill old people don't attack the
civilians this is what the prophet
mammad told
us said that the prophet never ever
start a war against
anybody and if we're going to worship
something I figured I might as well
worship the Creator instead of any of
the
Creations now in upon investigating all
the religions I remember finding out the
meaning of what Islam is what a Muslim
is those who surrender theel to God is a
Muslim those who surrender submit to God
God's will that is it Islam was pure it
was just you just pray to God your
creator back here on the dean show with
Dr Abdullah Hakim quick giving you the
roots of Valentine's Day showing that
it's not that innocent when it starts
off that way but then you see what
transpires at the end you know so you
mentioned uh just before we get into the
next you mentioned adultery so the
person says look I'm dating I'm not like
uh uh dating anybody's wife I wouldn't
do adultery but when we say when you're
talking about adultery you're talking
about any kind of fornication yeah
basically what we're talking about is
not just the physical act of adultery
but but being alone you know with with
the opposite sex cuz someone thinks
adultery now that's like when you when
you cheat on your husband or wife yeah
I'm not married though I got a
girlfriend yeah is that allowed um
islamically again it's it's a complete
different concept than the loose society
that people are living in and actually
if you looked at America um before 40
years even 30 years you will see that
that most people um actually waited
until they were in their late teens 20s
you know before they even started to
date and before that uh they wouldn't
have any uh sexual relationships until
they were married this is how this
Society actually was in the past it's
the basis of societies all over the
world and it's only recently when
eratica now enters into Hollywood and in
literature and it starts to overtake
everything and and changing society and
then you know people start um you know
taking off their clothes originally when
people used to swim they had long
clothings if you look at people in the
early 20th century uh a woman would have
a a bathing suit that covered most of
her body I can remember when I was young
growing up um in America in Boston and I
watched a movie called I Love Lucy yes
and uh in in that program Lucy and or
husband according to the rules of
television at that time they could not
sleep in the same bed so therefore when
night time came Lucy would go to her bed
and her husband would go to his bed now
look what's on television now it's like
XXX in a normal movie is it just
advancement like advancement in
technology or decline of moral Society
it is actually Decline and what it is
leading to is a society that has no
limits that where modesty is gone and
where respect for the family is gone and
this is very destructive and dangerous
to the whole society and we are seeing
the rise of sexually transmitted
diseases having herpes is almost a
common thing in in in some parts of
North America I'm shocked to see how
many people actually are carrying
sexually transmitted diseases if you
look at the amount of abortions and un
so-called unwanted pregnancies this this
is a sad
uh case in terms of what is happening in
society and this could be avoided by
going back to the prophetic model and
that is where sexuality is enjoyed
within the confines of marriage and the
energy of the youth uh is put towards
building towards Sports Recreation and
when it comes time for sexuality it is
done within the confines of marriage
tell us now Shay we're almost out of
time for the person that has just been
warped their mind has just been warped
with MTV with football with you know all
the different Daytime Nighttime drama so
and it that's all it promotes so now but
they're listening to us and they've been
contemplating what is the purpose of
life how can we direct them to see the
bigger sche of things to get them to
really focus on why am I here in this
life who created me what does he want
from me give us that kind of advice
before we leave so we give them
something to to to reflect over well my
advice for young people today is to
travel to leave the cities go into
natural settings hiking swimming in the
natural world when you go into Allah's
creation then you will see the beautiful
relationship that nature has uh all of
its parts the animals and the trees and
the fish and the natural way of life
that is the way human beings originally
created we're supposed to be fitting
into the natural envirment and we are
actually made as Khalifa So that we are
uh the representative of God we are the
protector of nature so by going into the
natural world we see beautiful
relationships when when we go into the
cyers space and the false created world
that is where the devil's erotica takes
over and and and it destroys our
thinking and and puts us into a
dangerous way of life so we have one
minute left so is there hope now for
that person that has done you mentioned
that illegal this is something something
with God that it's it's a major felony
right can you classify it like that
Major law break so the person who's
broken this law with God is there still
hope for them they did everything
according to their desires but now they
want to submit to the one Creator they
want to do what God wants them to do is
there hope for that person also who says
you know what you know what I got a
mountain full of sins what what's what
what what can I do now I've just I've
I've taken it too far the beauty of the
last message is that Allah tells
us Allah forgive all sins so there is no
sin that is too great in this life for
the Creator to forgive we have to be
sincere no matter what it is that we did
turn to Allah make the intention and try
to change our lifestyle nobody is
perfect everybody commit sins but the
best of the Sinners are those who repent
that is what the prophet Muhammad peace
be upon him said so there is always hope
for us in this beautiful last way of
life but we have to be sincere and
really turn to the cre data and really
try to find alternative lifestyle that
we can live as moral beings modest
beings but still enjoy Modern Life and
be happy and enjoy all the beauty of
society that we have today thank you
very much once again for being with us
here on the dean show inshallah we can
be together more if God Almighty gives
us life and there you have it
Valentine's Day explain to you you've
been exposed to the roots of it what it
really means when you're celebrating
Valentine times day you might think it's
something Innocent but look where it
stems from look where it comes from and
you you tell yourself and you ask
yourself who should I be working to
please my desires is it all about just
satisfying my lower lusts and desires or
satisfying the one who created me the
one Creator you know what I'm going to
die and I'm going to have to answer for
everything I did in this life Judgment
Day so now if I just been jumping around
from man and woman just satisfying my
lower lust and desires and not caring
for the one who created me and the laws
that he sent down through all the
messengers of God including Jesus Moses
Abraham the last and final Messer
Prophet Muhammad peace be upon them they
all came with the law of God they all
called us to worship none but God the
Supreme Being the one Creator and not
the set up a partner next to him and to
obey the laws that God Almighty has sent
for us to obey
and man and woman come together inside a
marriage so don't sell yourself out
don't cop out and the guy buys you a
nice Valentine's Day chocolate candy and
tells you all them sweet nothing and
next thing you know you give yourself to
him in the wrong way and now your
guilt struck for the rest of your life
you've stained yourself you've
disrespected yourself Dishonored
yourself don't let it happen and you
know what even if it did happen you made
a sin turn back to the Creator who's the
most loving and ask him for forgiveness
he alone is the one who forgives all all
sins and strive your best to stay away
from everything that displeases God
because our whole mission is life is to
work to please our creator before we
meet our creator and you have to express
yourself express your love to God to the
one Creator
by your actions that's right your
actions because talk is cheap so
continue to tune in here to the dean
show every week where we have another
exciting show waiting for you we'll see
you next time peace be with you