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you got this you got this feeling you
with gender man wants to be
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dating and then you know we test drive
and we have a good time and then people
get heart broken you know so let's just flow with
this tell us you know what is
your experience with this whole you know
become something prevalent now amongst
the muslims unfortunately these days you
see a lot of
muslims the parents have made marriage
very difficult for them culture
actually look at islam isam marriage
very easy very easy process and
very easy to go through it
unfortunately our culture many of the
people m have this culture that
implemented and forced upon their
children have nothing to do with islam
actually most time conflict with islam
made marriage very difficult for the
young people so resorting to dating
and res to do all prib acts under under parents is
my son my daughter not do
last people find someone daughter may
yours so this thing is
mean isam simple you need guardian
father
to see
is may a this that the man kind s it
out
can you know guys can tell gu trying my
s want trick my sister you know and this is
natural no what religion you are you
know the father protective of his
daughter you know i don't want some gu
been this hing this diamond in my hand
for the last 18 to 20 years of her life
and now door want take diamond my
protecting this thing hand over to
anybody who are you what your story are you try trick
you try trick geto
c l no see who you are as a person and
sometimes guys can see stuff other
guys other girls can may not see and
then two witnesses two witnesses so they
can say there evidence saying these two
people they did say it this person this this this party party
it done
need ch
married you know just easy marriage
but these days parents make these
difficult conditions these obstacles
these loops you have to jump through
just to get married you have parents say
i want a 000 wedding 000 in some areas i
mean with rate people divorce you can get married
now and paying get divorced
paying for marriage you know
unfortunate do show show to just keep up
with the jones to be the next person say
look our wedding was 50 our wedding was
100000 our wedding
and kids ask kids don't even want
easy to with
life come back with the little deb
letter says in debt for the next 10
years of your life ping us 000 for one
just that one night hours yeah doesn't make
sense but islam makes it easy but
the people make it hard make it difficult
yes tell us now what i mean what
advice can we give to the youth out
there also i mean some parents are making
it difficult but you know to be
real some parents aren't some
really parents are doing things right but the you
some of them are just caught up in
society and you know going to the night
clubs
still let
you come in that you talk and you
came full force you left yes this
girlfriend you before because you love
the creator and you wanted to do what he
wanted you to do you want i want to do
things the right way there's different
ways of doing things there a wrong way
the right way you want to make business do
it but do it cheating people you be
with girl do it but accept that responsibility
says look i
will take you now on i willed you
provide for you you take take care
ofo physical needs every needs that you i
'm here i'm here for you not here i'm
here to spend one night with you and the
next day with next person next day with
one person this girl pregnant and next you
know you baby m left and right
that's not a broken society and this
society has many many broken pieces to
it love it has to do with marriage
before sex marriage before sex before
marriage
my daughter to islamic school shears a
job and stu is happening doesn't desire
boys desires boys after her phd no
that's not reality reality is age men
des women and women des men and our
creator made us and put inss inside of
us ands prescription doctores prescription
this is the way to do this
is will give you success and you go the
other way give you failure we here just giv
some real advice i mean we not two shakes we don't have you
know just
normal people we you know experience a
lot of things in society so we can keep
it we can give some real advice came up
to me i want see what advice you give
this brother he is committed to trying to
change himself he the him he you
know give this up i can't give up
dating women hard what advice he a young
man strong and this is a hard time he
having what are some of the steps now that
you think that you know from your
personal experiences advice that you can give
this brother you know the whole
desire thing is is very difficult anyone
who says you know what just give this up
and give this up said that is easier
than done they either not being real
been through it i a person can you
straight up very difficult desire that
paradise more than you want that
girl you remind this life will come end this is
this life is like a dream and
all these things are like trials and
test for you and if you have that in the
back of your head that helps you become
stronger number two is
put course you push this but hang out
with people who follow the same type of
thing and keep you strong do other
activities until you have enough money
and resources until you can get married
i play basketball with my friends i go do
all kinds of stuff we keep ourselves
busy until we are all prepared enough to
have enough finances to get married you
know all these things make are factors
all these things are variables you put
yourself in a situation know what i'm be a
good go the club i'm
just
you bab steps you
know pull you step by step he doesn't scream
he whispers you know just spend
time with
youing to spend a little more time with
you know may she lon maybe need to be lon
may spend time with
know may
take cra
man very
smart day of pr of pr tricking your
thinking maybe she there maybe she in that
club maybe i can change her yes and i'm
going to the club not so i can dance
and can
people ask what islam is why just dance
this confusion think really really think
to yourself who you fooling you're
only fooling yourself really you only
fooling yourself and unfortunately we
all fall to this this this struggle and
you really is tough it's really tough
especially in the society where you have
temptation everywhere from billboards to
television to everything it's everywhere
around us and it's tough but then again paradise
isn't cheap you bu your you
you with phd from this that family you
have to earn it and you earn that by
going through the struggles and by
passing those struggles and this this this
marriage this desire thing is
struggle that we going as our youth it's
tough all have to go through it so not
alone we love ours we love our sisters
we just want to give sinc advice we
talked about the bros now you got our
sisters out there some of are falling in
the trap you finding themselves you up here up here
foll the latest fashion
cau more a and getting used abuse may
falling the tricks
that you know have come across this are
you the ones are older have figured
this out by now but the will tell you
exactly what you want to hear they have
this lust they have this desire that
hungry for it's a hunger and when you're
hungry and and you need to be fed you're gna say
what you do say what you need to say
so you can get what you need to get
and you don't care whose heart you break
you don't how men so mean they hungry they des
have no guidance have no fear
of whatever he loves me he loves me
right he doesn't love you love else so
this is tri a tell you straight up oh no he
different how many girls have said
that ask your no our love is like no love
ever in the world we love each
other forever and ever and ever we up
divorce years so f all these people say
love how look at divorce rate
over
people divorce people are connected divorce married stuck
because kids stu
because of family issues stuck because
of whatever those those stats come there
and people who don't live with each
other you know they just decide to be
separated ta reasons unfortunate
relationship right thing you know how to treat
her knows how treat you this is
teaches us by the way how to treat a
woman what you see on tv mambo j they
try to teach you on television really
the way a muslim should treat his wife
and his wife should treat her
husband amazing if you really look into
it beautiful like your woman all her
desires must be taken care of for
Islamic in relationship man her physical
needs her emotional needs even her
sexual needs to be
you know are
encouragement encouraged isam tees is to
wife this teaches a man go even beyond that
with other to for wife so
look
we have all cra going be wies all
domestic all cra over what over just cra cra
when you go towards culture what it gives you
go towards what it
gives you unfortunately we have too many
people toward cure people isar way life
very simple now what encouragement i
mean some of the benit from leaving
following your lust and desires and
going living a life of just you know
from one guy girl to the next where you
come do something sacred you come
together even at the end mees
end give you know this is a he way life
you know even divorce
isam alls it but this is the
wor all you can does throne
of
knows the last
res muslim
res jump to
me divorce straight to and you find
small wrong the girls i think we jump
the hw
you know
prince little horse and he say you do
this perfect my husband he just like brad
he say the right words at the right
time
home i
divorce and next i divorce to
everyone is single and divorced what
happen what makes it work i mean because i
think that's what it is you get caught
up watching too many movies not supposed to be
watching first of all with all
with all this junk out there and you
start about unfortunately this is m do
you can bu their m you can their m they do this
so they can fool you to think this is
real life reality is not real
life whatever marriage life is
completely different no one prepares you
what to expect for marriage i wish they did
but they don't really prepare you
let me tell you from very doing the show
i'll tell you
up marri is married married for [music]
differently our brains our chemicals
all mind is all completely different you
put two completely different people
together and they try to communicate
does always work out and you learn
to be patient one the first learn
marriage you learn to work with you learn
topromise do
know him reason you for hope is for you do
all
life ease ment mind
marri
caning together to do the man
life
you do it correctly if you do
everything correctly you get reward for
it you get reward for kissing your wife
or sleeping with your wife and she get
reward for as well you know you're
staying away from the bad things trying stay towards
the good things doing
things islamic the way the creator
wanted you to do things and by doing things correctly
you get reward for it
of course you go towards the wrong
direction you get pun we
say even even this show is being written
for us and be accountable for
and this is why for us to do things
right way that's the other now we talked
about all the rewards here like you said
now you get punished for you don't mean
the creator
of fores
all die
going around circles you know chasing
this person that person i mean never
satisfied never satisfied and what die
on get
resurrected that state horrible survive
life what
disi children
about with more who knows have kids
different kind lifestyle poor child has to
raised tough mean entire world for
muslim we have which is the whole all
the people and is made countries
countries are made cities communities local communities
and basic foundation of family is a husband
and wife when you break basic
foundation of husband and wife you have
all divorce people with little kids and
they can't get married and you make
these young guys they can't get married
because the parents are making too hard what
kind of society gna have you have
people that just
frustrated for one reason another and
how can focus on school focus on work
and focus on this naturally men women
supposed to be together yeah and you
got get out and do it she's not come or
he not just come you got get out there force
door there noce on the door it
doesn't happen you have to go out there
and look for the right person and the
guy looking for the right girl and look
for someone based on their character not
based on the culture not based on money not
based on stuff not based on stuff they had
no choice of family bn look for
something of their character the way
they look at creator the way
wrong way and you keep her in check
when you go the wrong way you know me
these are things make possi a good
recipe for a good marriage how can we
get like iman and this mam this so so
chris and all the others gre just there
so many [
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of
the number one way to do you can go
family you go family but if you Can't go
family because family is the best way to
know someone someone it's always
better it's easier if you don't know
then there might be social gatherings if
you're like myself come to from a family
that does practice any type of religion
and you need to find someone and you
look around and like nothing around me
working i try going on the internet and
check out the matchmaking websites out
there they w
people cars this is the he this is the
weight this is the is the blp [laughter]
honest real life you people questions
you learn about them i a
web.com and
bic
family regard regard all different
parts of your life
and you look at someone's profile tell
you 75% match on rel religious belief
24% match on personality 10% match on
character you learn
more girl
of hb some people look fory some
looking for a gu who very assertive and
some people looking for a guy who very ambitious
different people are looking
for different things so and we all
different and your taste is very
different kind like you go to a garden
there's all these different types of
flowers and have different sc you may
like roses i may like some other type of
fl do make one the other we try find the
webs how someone
iend my daughter there i
can't find how do i know how do i feel secure
that she not gna be taking
advantage out because there's a lot of
people out there who aren't serious they
might be just trying to sneak through the
cracks there's a couple things i try to do
and nothing is guaranteed no
matter what website or even in person
you always want to try do research and
try find out more more about the person
this website is here to try filter out
all these people
pe how qu of this is that's webs doing
what we do try filter all different
people so the question we you how
you on top that we
2 you right now in
chicago is willing to to chicago
no why are you talking to the
person if you place live say what is
your idea about this what is your
idea about that you can ask questions
before they even meet the person and
they can answer questions before you
actually officially talk and you can
answer her questions can ask your
questions learn a little more about each
other after all of this and you go through
all different profiles say you know what this is i
think
may then you can contact them may speak
to parents ask for permission you know
and maybe they can talk to your parents
maybe you guys can talk to some of the
friends they know find which community
involved in you know res you don't just
go find someone off the internet say
guess what get married got keep family involved
exactly try get inv and you
never know who's on internet and that's
why important but i found my wife
halfway around the world and i can find
in my local
community was for inter there no
way
careful exactly
there that you know what they can relate
to what we saying they just need
a little extra extra push you he right
there onot i mean not easy the whole
marriage thing is very difficult for all
of us all of us you know even before married
you go through of struggle you
get married different struggle the whole
life is a struggle struggle
merom
special to be with never exclude family
always have them involved in this
process somebody who is there with you
helping you but the most important thing
is that you have that connection with
your creator and always bes his help
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