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you thank you very much for tuning in
again to another episode of the dean
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week trying to help you understand Islam
and Muslims now you have come to that
full conviction that none has the right
to be worship except the one who created
you there's no God but God there is no
deity worthy of worship except Allah and
Muhammad is the last and final messenger
sent to
mankind no more Messengers to come but
now this is not it there needs to be
time spent learning this way of life
same way of life that was lived with all
the messengers of God it's a complete
code of conduct a complete moral compass
that you go by from when you wake up
until you go to sleep so we're going to
be talking about mannerisms how we
conduct ourselves as those who have
submitted ourselves to the one God we
need to act a certain way we need to be
the elite in good etiquette and manners
and behavior and character this is
befitting a Muslim one who has
consciously submitted to the one God so
we're going to be talking about this
very very very important topic with our
next guest Sheik ibraim zadam we come
back here on the dean show we'll be
right
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Allah
Allah there's only one God and Jesus was
his messenger
Allah know why I did that maybe maybe
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with
youim Zan how are you doing
alhamdulillah great alhamdulillah now
now we got a lot of not yet Muslims
non-muslims out there who are listening
to the show and just so they don't think
we we said some code words you said
alhamdulillah what' you say means praise
be to Allah the creator of the heavens
and the Earth and some people might
think oh there they go talking about
some Moon God right who's Allah Allah
the one the most perfect the most high
the Almighty nothing is the like of him
and he's the all hearer the all Seer and
he is the one that doesn't have a son
nor a daughter he's nothing like the
human beings and he's the most merciful
the one that is over his creation over
his throne and with his Creation with
his knowledge and his power and wisdom
now before we get into our topic we want
to talk about manners etiquette just
just to we want to assuage any fear
because some people might be tuning in
for the first time and they hear Islam
and you know there's some hype out there
people believe you know like you know
Islam Muslim and what comes next right
Muslim terrorist so you know there's all
sorts of you know corruption out there
but we know what Islam teaches and
preaches but you got you know some
people who don't even want to go further
because they think oh these people going
to brainwash me I got to strap a bomb to
myself and go kill innocent people what
do we got to say about this what we
need to say is that people need to think
and make decisions for themselves and
not to surrender their ideas and their
opinions based on just some people that
has certain agend ERS we have the
religion of Islam saved, 1400 years ago
the Revelation from Allah subhana tala
unlike the previous Revelations where
human beings were entrusted with it when
it comes to Islam the the thing that was
revealed to the prophet sallallah alhi
wasallam the Quran and the Sunnah
meaning his sayings and his actions is
all preserved in every single detail so
for every human being to go back and see
read the Quran read the life of the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam and
find for yourself the purpose of our
life and you know being following the
truth this is our our duty and one of
the sayings of the Prophet that he said
that he was sent to complete and to
perfect mannerism on the face of Earth
so we have the perfect understanding of
what mannerism is and we do not refer
back to our opinions or our desires or
what our environment would say it's all
referred back to the pure Revelation
with verse after verse with Hadith after
Hadith the sayings of the prophet be
upon him and it's all that all clear but
for people need to give the time and
learn it and get to apply themselves so
before we dwell into this so just for
the people who've had some negative
stereotypical views about Islam Islam
has nothing to do with hurting innocent
men women and I've had many people such
as shik W buasi absolutely not there is
actually a fatwa which is a ruling been
issued by the senior scholars in Saud
Arabia 30 years ago before 9911 before
all these happened signed by they
condemn these things and he said
specifically that it is forbidden it is
illegal there is nothing can justify th
that to specifically mention hijacking
airplanes attacking urban areas uh
civilians and bombing them uh Dr B you
know when 911 happened what did uh Bush
say Bush was the first one to get on the
television and say
this is not an act of
Islam this is an act of a small band of
terrorists you know who are not acting
according to Islam because Islam means
peace because they say why don't you
have the scholars who condemn such
actions the Quran says don't kill women
don't kill children don't kill old
people don't attack the civilians this
is what the prophet Muhammad told us
innocent people who are dying anywhere
in the world life is is precious so but
what is Islam clearly Islam has nothing
to do with any acts of terrorism that's
correct that and Islam there is no such
a thing in Islam as betraying one's
trust and betraying people by deceiving
them and killing them by by deception
and betrayal and all these types of
things has nothing to do with the
religion of Islam and people need to
separate between what Islam is the pure
message from Allah subhana wa tala and
that if people do things out of
craziness or whatever there is is
something that should not be related to
the pure message of now the fog is clear
the junk out of the trunk and you can
relax now we assuage any fear we're
talking about Good Old good stuff and it
starts off with the foundation of
worshiping the one who credit you alone
without any Partners not setting up a
partner next to God another guy besides
God but at the same time now you've done
that you acknowledge that look I don't
want to worship the creation I want to
worship the one who created creation
simple and I want to obey the last the
final message sent to Mankind and he
said and we'll take it from here didn't
he say that I have not been sent except
to perfect good mannerisms is this true
talk to a that's true that's correct and
when we see this statement somebody
might say but there are other rulings in
the Quran and in the Sunnah the way of
the Prophet not just about mannerism so
how that statement means that I have I
was not sent except to perfect the
mannerism it means that all of the
religion of Al Islam is all about
mannerism how is that mannerism is of
three types there is mannerism with
Allah mannerism with the messenger of
Allah mannerism with the human beings
mannerism with Allah mean meaning that
if he's the one that created us he's the
one that provided for us that means
worship him alone imagine someone that
he hired you to do some work a person
going to a food place or whatever there
is and he works for them and instead of
wearing the t-shirt that they gave him
to wear with the logo of the place he
wears something else and he calls people
to eat somewhere else that's not being
fulfilling the favors of what he has in
that place and to Allah subhana is the
best example he created us he provided
for us he's the only one worthy of
worship the mannerism with the prophet
peace be upon him that Allah subhah wa
tala the most high sent him for people
to follow so we follow his mannerism his
actions all of his Affairs we need to
Humble ourselves and to have the good
mannerism with him we do not innovate in
the religion of Al Islam do things that
the prophet peace be upon Him didn't do
because we're having the good manners
with him as Allah the most high ordered
us if people would do these two the
easiest part of mannerism is to have the
best mannerism with others we need to
have mannerism with our own selves that
we treat ourselves according to what
Allah the most high wants us to treat it
there are things in the religion of Al
Islam in the Quran and in the Sunnah of
the Prophet peace be upon him that
teaches us how to deal with our own
selves how to deal with our wives and
the wife with the husband how to deal
deal with the children how to deal with
the friends with the enemies with the
neighbors if you are in a in in a in a
place where anybody any relationship any
variable in our life and I'm not
exaggerating and this is something that
people can go back and see for
themselves you will find it in the Quran
and in the Sunnah the way of the Prophet
wasallam the perfect way of life of
having the best mannerism Deeds Done by
the heart things to say how to speak how
to act how to look how to hear how to do
any move in our life based on perfect
way of life of revelation of Allah now
some Muslims I mean we're all learning
and we come back from Days of ignorance
and we got this roughness to us real
rough you know and now we feel that to
be in Islam and and and this is a
misconception is it that now some people
feel like you know I'm not being you
know if I'm soft then you know maybe
something's wrong with me I need to be
this tough guy you know in in the
religion but if we look to the last and
final messenger wasn't he the mercy of
mercies wasn't he teaching us opposite
of this right and Allah the most high he
said in the
Quran it is by the mercy of Allah that
you are lenient to them lenient lenient
to them and the time of the Prophet
before he was sent the Arabs at his time
they were so vicious in some of their
acts that they would kill their own
daughters with their own hands yeah what
is more rough than this and these same
people Allah the most high changed them
by the Revelation from Allah to be the
most soft and the most lenient and at
the same time they are firm when it
comes to the orders of Allah they do not
compromise anything of the religion of
Allah Thea the wife of the Prophet
wasallam she said that when he was will
be at home he will be in the in the help
of his family when he once the time for
the Salah comes as if we do not know him
he is fulfilling the orders of Allah
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back here on the dean show with shik
Ibrahim zadan we're talking about
mannerisms is very important okay you
worship you go to the Masjid but now you
act one way in the place of worship but
now you go outside of the Masjid and you
might be lying stealing deceiving is
this what Islam is teaching us of course
not and the deficiency in this because
of the deficiency of how people make in
their prayers in the in the beginning of
the show you talked about Allah subhana
T the most high and how we worship him
alone if this is perfected everything
else after that will be in place and
that's why if we have the proper
mannerism with Allah when we stand in
the Salah and we look into the place
where we put our head in the suud and
the prostration we recite certain things
we say certain things are we
understanding what we're saying is our
hearts working with what our tongue
would be saying when we humble ourselves
and put our head on the ground the head
is the most honored part of our body and
we put it on the ground not for a human
being but for the creator of the heavens
and earth this has to do something with
our heart this is the humbleness that
we're supposed to carry with us outside
the Salah but most of us when we make
the prayers we just want to get
something done and leave we don't think
of it we don't have the the proper
humbleness that's why the Salah the
prayers does not have an effect in our
life but in which if we do it in the
proper way if we we understand that we
are slaves of the creator of the heavens
and the Earth then we will deal with
people according to what Allah wants
from us so the prayers if it's done in
the most perfect way if you understand
what we're saying if we fulfill the the
the Oneness of worship of Allah purely
and perfectly then we'll treat each
other according to what Allah the most
high wants from us not according to what
we want with one another and this is
this is what we're lacking isn't it
because we know that when the Muslims
when they went to was it Indonesia and
they had the best manners in business
many people when they saw the Muslim how
they were conducting themselves they
because they were used to this
corruption from them before but when
they embraced the religion the way of
life the complete submission to the one
God and all the etiquet and rules that
one has to follow now it transformed
them and people saw this the not the
non-muslim and they ended up accepting
Islam too is this true that's true
that's true by the millions and
Indonesia is the the the number one
country of Muslims when it comes to
number wise and it was not opened with
matters of jihad it was by basically
trade and business and things this is
manners this is mannerism wow and this
is how the religion of Islam spread
actually is by the mannerism that people
didn't do it just to deceive people or
to call them to the religion it's the
mannerism that the most high the creator
of the heavens and the Earth ordered
them to act in a certain way one of the
incident is that I was mentioning
yesterday one of the early generations
of Islam that many of the Muslims do not
know him his name is Abdullah Mubarak he
had a Jewish neighbor next to him yeah
and the Jewish neighbor was selling his
house and somebody came and he asked him
how much you selling the house for he
said 2,000 din whatever the currency he
said it's only worth 1,000 he said yes
1,000 for the house and 1 1,000 for the
neighborhood that you're buying
basically the neighbor which is that man
Abdullah Mubarak so the neighbor was
understanding that this the mannerism of
his neighbor was worth money right so
when Abdullah Mubarak his neighbor knew
about this he gave him a thousand and he
told him keep your house you don't need
to sell your house he gave his money to
the Jewish neighbor to keep his house
and not to leave his house this is the
mannerism who would on the face of Earth
would do this this is a Jewish neighbor
this is a Jewish neighbor wow right
because he thought that he's leaving
because he is in need of money so the
neighbor is taking care of his neighbor
because this is not something that is of
goodness of his own self this is the
order of the creator of the heavens and
the Earth that you're not good unless
you are good to your neighbors and your
neighbors if they go sleep when they're
hungry you will be asked in the day of
judgment why did they go hungry when you
are sleeping full and not hungry this is
responsibilities that we have as Muslims
on the face of Earth so this is not only
to your brothers because is it true now
the we have brothers in faith but also
we have brothers in humanity that we
want to be our brothers in faith so we
want the best for everybody so sharing
is because we care we care that's why we
share so we're trying to share this
beautiful way of life with the world now
now some might say well you know I'll
act one way with with them but I'm going
to be mean to the others those that that
aren't in Islam we have to be kind and
generous and good with with everybody is
this right definitely because this is
something that the most high the creator
of the heavens and the Earth ordered us
and one of the verses of the Quran
says speak to people people in general
with goodness it's not just saying
Muslims not musl everybody speak to
everybody with goodness and sometimes
you might be tough on your children for
example this is goodness why because you
want them to understand something and
you want them to receive a certain
message especially if a person is in the
field of Da and calling people to the
truth he needs to be the most kind and
the most lenient not that he wants to
deceive people but he wants to rub off
these types of barriers between him and
them to see the truth he cares about
them so we need to have these types of
mannerism that needs patience yeah right
the neighbor has a right on us right the
the those who we meet in our life the
more the Muslim is whenever someone is
physically close to you he has a right
on you and the right of you that at
least he does not receive any harm from
you yeah and this is something that the
prophet s wasallam said when he kept
counting the things of good things that
a person can do even lifting something
on someone's Mount someone in his car
and you help him to carry a bag to put
it in the car this is not just out of
the goodness of yourself this is the
order in the religion Revelation came
from from the seventh heaven to the
human beings to do this simple act for
the sake of Allah subhana wa tala and if
people would do this this that they're
fulfilling the orders of Allah subhana
when he said in this counting these
types of Good Deeds the least of it that
nobody has an excuse in it it the
prophet s wasallam said that people
should not be harmed by you this is
Charity yeah when people do not receive
any harm from you then this is a charity
this is a good deed this is good
mannerism and nobody would say I don't I
I cannot help myself by positively being
something mean of course not stay away
from harming others this is the least
that a person can do this is amazing and
Islam we know is the fastest growing way
of life in the world today yesterday and
tomorrow and if we would be implementing
it the right way it would only be even
growing faster but we don't appreciate
it many of us that's why we're here and
we hope that everyone has a sincere open
heart and open mind and they get to
benefit from this important knowledge
now tell us we trying to give some
practical examples you know again some
people coming over from jalah we were
there yesterday we're coming here today
and you know you're around the brother
and you know you didn't know he spoke
another language we're speaking English
but then he turns the corner and he's
speaking French and I'm not talking
French fries or French fruit I'm talking
about you know words that shouldn't be
coming out of a person's m is this good
mannerisms swearing cursing can a Muslim
be doing this of course not and why
because Allah the most high forbid us
and there are Surah in the Quran that
talks about this and mannerism do not
mock one another do not call each other
names and when a person knows that this
is from his creator then the submission
is different because if it's not from
the Creator people would deal with one
another as rewarding one another or just
trying to get some benefits but we don't
do that for the benefit of a human being
we're doing that because we need to be
obedient to Allah subhana wa tala so the
issue of people when they come into the
Masjid or come into Islam and there's so
much Jia or ignorance they come with
they need to take care of themselves
takes time takes time right takes time
with building the Iman building the
faith that what really becomes the
ground for good mannerism not that be
kind do this and do that if the person's
heart is not full of the belief and the
faith and knowing Allah the most high
with his names and attributes and
building this Iman fulfilling the
obligations of Allah the Salah and so on
then it becomes just uh not too much of
an important attitude that a person
would have unless he would do that for
the sake of Allah so that mouth that we
use the tongue to praise the crator we
should never curse with it right that's
definitely true this tongue is an a
trust that we have to use it in the
proper way definitely we're going to
take a break we'll be right back with
more here on the dean show I just want
to say very simple
message one of the beautiful things
about our religion of Islam is the
emphasis on Direct ritual and prayer who
God Direct
there is no intermediary the lights will
go on after the party and the party will
end it's very simple and very clear
there are no superstitious rituals no
strange incantations time is running out
we might not make it till tomorrow and
this is something that we need to think
about back here on the dean show with
shik ibraim zadan people to watch more
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alhamdulillah thank the Creator all
thanks is to him that you are here with
us so we can benefit from your knowledge
so it seems like Islam that call to
acquire peace by submitting to your will
to the to the owner of Peace the one God
the same God of Jesus Moses Abraham Noah
that same God that they called the
people to worship we're talking about
him and the last and final message sent
to mankind of prophet Muhammad peace be
upon him it seems like this is a
comprehensive way of life nothing's left
out everything how we worship the
Creator how we deal with our neighbors
etiquette with our wives children
everything is there everything is there
everything is saved and it's not again
opinions it's text this is not your
opinion what you just made up that's
right it's all from the Quran the verses
of the Quran and the sayings of the
prophets peace be upon him and that's
what people need to learn and need to
have the patience to apply it even if
people are not understanding this but
they're not on the same page with you
you're still supposed to be of the best
mannerism because you're doing that
because you're nothing but a servant of
Allah and he ordered you to to do
certain things in the C in a certain way
tell us doesn't this reflect bad on the
daah on your call to invite people to
reflect about their purpose of life why
they're here but now you're acting like
a clown like a fool you're not
implementing Islam and now you end up
being a you know you you end up being a
hindrance because isn't it like you you
go ahead and and and you live one way in
front of let's say the brothers or
sisters in the Masid but you go out here
and you're acting foolish you're not
implementing Islam doesn't this now
confus use people say you don't want me
to come to Islam weren't you at the
nightclub the other day don't you treat
people disrespectfully what do I have to
gain by following Islam because you're
being a bad example right and this is
exactly what the prophet peace be upon
him he said that some of you are meaning
some of you are repellent Subhan Allah
that make people run away from seeing
the truth which is another evil that we
might Fallen without knowing so we have
to have that responsibility if you say
that I'm a Muslim comes with that a
responsibility that you have a message
on the face of Earth you don't have to
be talking to people calling them it's
your action and your conduct when it's
time for the prayer and you leave
everything even if it's a million dollar
you leave it to obey the orders of Allah
to pray the same thing you deal with
them you buy and sell you're truthful
you're doing the things that you're
supposed to do because you're nothing
but an obedient slave to Allah subhana
wa tala that by itself is the image that
we need to do not just to get people in
but because this is the order of Allah
we'll be asked about it in the day of
judgment tell us now before we come to
an end it just came to my mind that a
person is it true he can be fasting and
praying and doing all these ritual
things but now on the other end he
doesn't have good ethics morals manners
and now in the day of judgment is going
to be taken from his Good Deeds he was
backbiting he was doing a lot of hideous
things isn't this this is the Hadith
this is the saying of of the Prophet
peace be upon him that he asked his
companions one day he said do you know
who's the bankrupt among my um my dead
broke dead broke they said the one that
doesn't have money so the prophet peace
be upon Him correcting their
understanding and this is what we
correct our understanding when we go
back to the Quran and the Sunnah he told
them the bankrupt the broke among my um
is the one that comes in the day of
judgment with prayers with fasting with
all kinds of good deeds but he came and
he had cursed so and so and he had
attacked the honor and so and so he had
physically attacked someone wow so these
people come in the day of judgment and
they would take from his good deeds and
they would put it onto them they would
take it from him till he has no more
Good Deeds because the balance in the
day of judgment is Good Deeds versus bad
deeds and still he has some things in
his account that he abused others and so
on and still he does not have any good
deeds they will take from their own bad
deeds and they put it on him and he will
end up being thrown into the H this is a
man that came thinking that he's in the
Jenna straight to paradise but he ends
up being in the Hellfire becomes a in
his record sins that he didn't do and
Allah is the most just but because of
this transgression that he transgressed
the bounds and the limits and attacked
others by Word of Mouth by physically
attacking them that would bring the sins
on him and they would come in the day of
judgment and take from him Bad Manners
Bad Manners so this is very very
emphasized in Islam keeping your
promises of course being a person of
your word and this is the signs of
hypocrisy if a person doesn't the
prophet Prophet peace be upon him and he
said the sign of a hypocrite is three
that when whenever he promises he breaks
his promise whenever he speaks he lies
whenever he quarrels some with someone
he is beyond the mannerism that means he
abuses so much the quarrel some with
others which is basically bad mannerism
signs of hypocrisy that negates the
belief and the the attitude of a
believer that makes the belief deficient
and that means the relationship between
mannerism and belief it's not belief is
not just something in the heart belief
IM in Islam belief is something done by
the heart something said by the Tongue
and something done by the whole parts of
the body it's all Faith it's all belief
that increases and decreases closing
comments and suggestions for those who
are struggling they want to do the right
thing you know and they're trying to get
bad past some of their bad behavior from
the past they love this because it's
increasing their Iman and this is
getting more into Islam they just need
some more advice give it to him well if
there is one advice that I can say in in
seconds turn to Allah the creator of the
heavens and earth alone sincerely
truthfully that as if you are
drowning and you seek help you won't
seek help from a human being when you're
drowning and there's nothing around you
no means you would turn sincerely to the
creator of the heavens and earth turn to
him with that same attitude that he
would help you to be steadfast on the
truth that will make you see the truth
and make you among those who had the
best mannerism if we do that truthfully
we'll take the proper means and we'll
seek the proper means from the Quran and
the Sunnah of the prophet wasallam
putting our trust in Allah subhana wa
tala and learning and acting learning
and acting they go together they don't
separate from one another and this is
what we need to do mannerism is
something that we need to learn we don't
know it by default we need to learn it
according to the way of prophet Muhammad
peace be upon him and one last thing is
for Muslims and non-muslims the basic
human right if we need to correct the
understanding of what human rights is
the basic human right people need to
know about Islam this is the right of
every human being on the face of Earth
that people don't make barriers between
them and between knowing the true
message of Al Islam this is their right
and we need to fulfill that right to
others and to be in their service to get
them to know the pure Message of al-
Islam thank you so much and may the one
God the same God of Abraham Moses Noah
and the last and final Messenger to sent
to mankind Prophet muham peace be may he
reward you the one God who created man
and woman but he's not a man and woman
the one God thank you very much thank
you very much thank you we keep saying
on every show because this is the
foundation and you cannot build a house
on a weak Foundation is that you submit
to the call to worship the one God and
no butts ands ifs after that not three
and one one and three four and five six
just one leave it alone child can
understand that and then we need to
perfect our mannerisms our etiquet how
we conduct ourselves with the Muslims
and the not yet Muslims we have to be
the best of examples and how you going
to do that your own whims and desires no
you got to submit to the one who created
you and he sent down the verbatim word
of God which is the Quran and we have
the last and final messenger sent to
mankind to prophet Muhammed peace be
upon him his way his example the
authentic Hadith the same way if you
were living during the time of Moses it
was the same message obey the messenger
that was sent worship the one God and
obey the messenger and this is the last
and final message send mankind of
prophet M peace be upon him and we hope
that you got the benefit and we'll see
you next time God willing inshallah
until then peace be unto
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you he created the
universe to him belong the heavens and
the
Earth the ever living He is the
first he's the owner of
Mercy
he sent his
Messengers to all his
creatures of the Grave
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worshiping
other than
Allah there is none
greater than the
[Music]
Creator
[Music]
all